1Taoist
July 10th, 2009, 17:09
I was having a discussion lately about monogamy and came away with a thought concerning why it fails even when it succeeds.
Many people I know focus on their partner either too much or too little.
Many wives I know who focus totally on their husband invariably have a husband who pulls away, and is more liable to have indiscretions. The husbands who aren't inclined to this invariably have wives who don't focus enough on them.
The concept I'm driving at is most people suffer from these extremes. Although something inbetween would be more ideal, it isn't normally the case. How does one find the optimum balance between focus and variety? I think monogamy is good, but for some reason it seems difficult even in good situations, given enough time.
I think we're all a little to possessive and a little too lax. We create the the conditions for, the tension, infidelity, or the sheer act of sexual variety.
Many people I know focus on their partner either too much or too little.
Many wives I know who focus totally on their husband invariably have a husband who pulls away, and is more liable to have indiscretions. The husbands who aren't inclined to this invariably have wives who don't focus enough on them.
The concept I'm driving at is most people suffer from these extremes. Although something inbetween would be more ideal, it isn't normally the case. How does one find the optimum balance between focus and variety? I think monogamy is good, but for some reason it seems difficult even in good situations, given enough time.
I think we're all a little to possessive and a little too lax. We create the the conditions for, the tension, infidelity, or the sheer act of sexual variety.