help me.

[irus_secaris]

circumcision, it has tought me to hate.

I am 14, and recently learned that something terrible was done to me at birth, & After reading the effects, am considering suicide. when i told my mom i wanted to restore, she thought it crazy & forbade me. I feel mutilated, & id sue my parents if i had anyone else. ill fucking stop at NOTHING to fix this. please tell me what 2 do. i dont WANNA kill myself, but im so full of rage. how can i restore FULLY without mom fining out?

[InnerLogic]

All you can do is take control of the situation. If you want this back, your best option is restoring.

You can do so without your parents knowing. Look up manual tugging, no device needed. Some people say it's the best way to restore.

Your parents don't understand because few people are educated about the actual outcomes of the procedure. This isn't necessarily their fault, people trust what their doctors tell them, particularly new parents who want what's best for their baby.

I understand the frustration at your parents, I had that for a while too. But you have to realize that it is highly unlikely that they did this fully knowing the effects it would have.

My advice: don't kill yourself, and restore through manual tugging.

[peterpink]

You have found out something terrible that was done to you and you feel helpless and angry. This is a normal reaction and something you will (I know this seems unbelievable) work through. It is sad that your parents are not sympathetic, but very typical. They should be supportive and not judgmental. If you are into writing, write down your feelings, over say a week, and then give it to your parents. They will be less dismissive of an account you have taken the time to write out.

If you like reading find a book on grief which may help you to understand what you are going through. Keep in touch with us.Try to find someone who is sympathetic. Possibly a female or older person. It helps to have a friend to give you support.

Do start manual as you parents will not know and as you are young you should see rapid results - but be careful.

Many of us felt/feel the same way as you, and with time things get better. When you are a little older you might like confronting the doctor.

[irus_secaris]

1. thank you, do u promise the feelings'll go away?

2. how long at one time should i stretch? how many months will this take?

3. im sure my bf will be supportive

4. how would u get it to close once u got enough skin?

[peterpink]

1. thank you, do u promise the feelings'll go away?

I can only say from my own experience. At first (when I found out at age 59 about the harm circumcision causes) for nearly a year I thought about nothing else night and day. I was angry and grieving. Three years later I rarely feel bouts of anger and my grief is quite minor in comparison. Restoration helped me to move on. Unfortunately, the experts say that grief must be worked through rather than denied for good mental health. Physical activity may help you work out the anger. Try to keep involved in the real world to take your mind off things.

If anyone had told me three years ago I would be a stronger person for the suffering I would have told them to f--- off. Now I am inclined to agree in that I can talk about circumcision more openly, but I still feel I am less of a person physically than I felt I was before I found out the grim truth.

Hang in there.

[InnerLogic]

1. thank you, do u promise the feelings'll go away?
When you're ready, you'll be able to move past it. It's normal to feel what you've described, and after a while, you'll be able to move past the feelings of resentment and anger. That will only happen when you're ready, if and when you want to.

2. how long at one time should i stretch? how many months will this take?
I think with manual, you can do it for 15-20 minutes at a time, and since you're young it should go by faster than if you were older. Depending on how tightly you're cut it could take less than a year, or several years.

3. im sure my bf will be supportive
That's very important. It sucks not having anyone supportive around you. Consider yourself lucky on that!
4. how would u get it to close once u got enough skin?
Good question, anyone else have any advice for this?

[ctrclckws]

Direct the anger into the positive effort of manual tugging for now.

There are posts, especially in the Methods/Manual tugging section, that have links to diagrams on different ways to do it.

Some people report that they take a few extra minutes for bathroom breaks to get a little tug.

At your age, you're probably not naked in front of your parents very often, and when you are, restoration is such a slow process, that they may not notice the difference until it's too late.

as far as number 4 question, wait and see how your skin develops. There are surgical options, If you can trust the surgeon not to cut too much. If you were cut tight, by the time you need to worry about, you'll probably be 18 anyway.

Best of wishes and keep on tugging.

PS. I wish I had found out about restoration at your age, In the thirteen years between then and when I got married, I could have restored completely.

[jeff71913]

Please, do not consider harming yourself. Many of us that are older know exactly how you feel. We've already been there. Give it some time. Things will get better. Promise:)

jeffrey

[greg_b]

1. thank you, do u promise the feelings'll go away?

2. how long at one time should i stretch? how many months will this take?

3. im sure my bf will be supportive

4. how would u get it to close once u got enough skin?

1) Impossible to promise, but generally over time people learn to deal with their feelings better. And taking a positive action, like restoring, can help a great deal. However, you may want to seek professional support as well.

2) you should read the section on manual, under methods. Lots of good information. From what I have read, it seems most do it for 10-30 minutes at a time, several times a day. But this is an area where you will need to experiment. The best judge of whether you are doing enough is your progress.

3) great!

4) all you need to do is grow enough foreskin. If you have enough, the dartos muscles in your foreskin will naturally close the opening. Of course there is some variation in how tightly any given man's foreskin (whether original equipment or restored) closes, but there is storng consensus among those who grew enough skin that this is the case. Keep in mind that it can take up to a year after finishing to see how your restored foreskin will behave, due to the stress of restoring on the skin.

Regards

[max.]

i think a lot of guys feel how you're feeling when they first find out what happened to them, myself included
what worked for me is talking to my girlfriend about it, and while she wasn't supportive right away i was persistent and after a little bit she realized this was something i felt strongly about and now i can talk to someone about any concerns i have

[irus_secaris]

thank you to everyone for giving me the information. im not as depressed, and am trying 2 let the anger go. ive begun stretching. thankfully i was cut very loose. anyways, i was wondering how to get rid of the folds that have developed in my glans.

[Dasher]

Hi Irus, if it's any consolation, lots of teens have pretty much the same reaction as you to the realization that something terrible was done to you at birth. Because what was done was in fact terrible. And feeling rage or anger is a pretty normal reaction. We wouldn't be human if we didn't have a reaction like this. Because what was done to you was unjust. (It was done to me too, except that I was 14 years old when it happened -- that's the only difference. I remember how it felt to have a foreskin although this is mostly just memories of peeing through it; I did do some masturbating with the foreskin too).

There is some good news for you: you can actually restore your foreskin so that it will look just like the real thing. So real, no one will probably ever know that you were circumcised at birth unless you choose to tell them.

Now here's some more good news for you: your anger at having been circumcised at birth without your permission is actually a plus. Because it will motivate you to restore. Restoring requires drive, focus, and committment, and an unrelenting obsession with achieving your goal of having a foreskin. Your anger and rage will actually be helpful, and will serve to propel you along this path of restoration!

There is even more good news for you: you are young and still growing, so you are in a much better position I think than the older guys who begin to restore in their 40s or 50s. And I know of teens who began restoring in their freshman or sophomore years in high school, and were finished restoring by the beginning of their senior year.

There is still more good news: circumcision removes a natural part of the human body, the foreskin, and therefore interferes with having a normal sex life. BUT you have recognized this fact early on, and will be taking steps to restore this lost part of your body as soon as you realized what had happened to you. You are way ahead of some of your classmates, who are unfortunately not as informed about this as you are. And you will be restored before most of your sex life even takes place. So you will not be missing out as much as they will.

I'm afraid that parents who caused the problem to begin with may not be very sympathetic with restoration. But why tell them? They will only be in denial about how horrible circumcision is anyway. A lost cause, probably.

Manual tugging works just fine, and brought me from CI-1 to CI-3 or CI-4, when I started using a TLC Tugger.

As far as how the foreskin covers the tip of the penis, I wouldn't worry too much about that at this point. Before I was circumcised, I had a long, overhanging foreskin. I probably won't go that far in restoration, but a guy who restored in England has an overhanging foreskin that's just as long as the one I used to have. And there is a guy who restored with a video on the Internet who has full coverage when erect, and he has a much bigger than average penis. So anything is possible!

You are also lucky to have the support of your bf. My freshman year, my bf, who is intact, was very supportive of me. His younger brother had been circumcised at birth, possibly a botched circumcision, and developed an infection and had to go back into the hospital. So my bf was very sympathetic, and horrified about circumcision. He was afraid of losing his foreskin, and told me (maybe incorrectly-- does anyone know?) that if you pulled the skin down too far, it might tear away from where it was attached on the underside of the penis.

But unfortunately, I had no idea you could restore your foreskin back then.

So welcome, and luck!

[irus_secaris]

1.) ugh! i just tried telling my mom the facts on restoration. what she said showed just how ignorant she was. heres a bit of our conversation:
"your anger's in the wrong place, sweety. your obsessing over a flap of skin that serves no purpose. i called the rabi, and he said it doesnt affect orgasm."
"but mom, i-"
"DONT YOU DARE! ITLL RUIN YOUR PENIS FOREVER, IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?"

2.) ive always dreamed of being a senator, and now, refuse to die until a law is passed banning circumcision untill age 18.

[coatformycock]

You're learning from a young age the stupidity of people and how age doesn't seem to improve their condition. You're lucky you're 14, you'll be fully restored before you even have a sex life. Arguing with your mom is pointless, just manual restore without her being the wiser. Good luck.

[photenman]

I wanted to add that in 8 months starting at square one I have grown a noticeable amount of foreskin and sex, solo and with my wife, is much improved. I am much more sensitive and started to feel the gliding action around six months. And I'm much older than you. If sex is a 3 cut and a 10 intact, they say you can be a 7 restored. In other words, you can get a lot of what was taken from you back, in 1-2 years. I think sex at a 7 level would be pretty darn good. We all feel the grief like you but when you take charge you will feel a lot better.

[irus_secaris]

1. ive a question, couldnt u just grow a new one with stem cells? then it'd hav the full structure.

2. can anyone tell me how to remove the wrinkles from my glans?

3. we need to take every pediatrician who has preformed a circumcision, and prosocute them for child abuse, breaking international law, sexual assault, crimes against humanity, and depriving right to one's body.

[greg_b]

1. ive a question, couldnt u just grow a new one with stem cells? then it'd hav the full structure.

2. can anyone tell me how to remove the wrinkles from my glans?

3. we need to take every pediatrician who has preformed a circumcision, and prosocute them for child abuse, breaking international law, sexual assault, crimes against humanity, and depriving right to one's body.

1) Potentially yes. The devil is in the details. No one knows how to do it exactly at this point. Work needs to be done to sort out how to do it, then test the method and wait to see what the results are. I think you will be restored by the time it is ready to use.

2) I do not know if that is possible. I have wrinkles in my glans, I never thought of trying to remove them. After you get to the point of having your glans covered by foreskin completely and all the time while flaccid, your glans will gradually get smoother and wetter. That may be all you need to do.

3) Good idea.

[coatformycock]

http://www.foregen.org/

If this is legitimate, they are planning on regenerating a full foreskin with ones DNA on test subjects by the end of this year. Hopefully the clinical trial is a success and this becomes a viable option.

[z726]

I don't know how I missed this thread before, but irus, I hope you're feeling better than last night.

Don't worry about your parents not understanding right away. Many people find the subject of foreskin restoration bizarre at first, and have been raised to believe there's nothing wrong with circumcision. You mentioned that your mother spoke with a rabbi about this - most of us here wouldn't be able to discuss it from a Jewish perspective, but keep in mind that circumcision is done as a matter of tradition in that religion.

Regarding the folds you see in the glans, people have told me that they do lessen or disappear after they attained complete coverage. I would say not to worry about them for now.

If you only recently learned about this, there's a lot of information to take in all of a sudden; I can understand how that would freak you out. Feel free to discuss things with people at this site for support.

With the foregen thing, all we can do is just sit back and see what happens. I hope it works, but at the moment they're only still raising funds for the project.

[irus_secaris]

1. i am feeling better than last night after reading some of the threads on here.

2. good news, i found a cylindrical 500g weight, which, as luck would have it, fits perfectly into my skin when i stretch my skin out, and i can easily tape it there with masking tape. im gonna wear it under my clothes to school tomorow. =-)


3. what is CI?

[max.]

3. what is CI?

CI stands for Coverage Index, the chart can be found here

http://www.newforeskin.biz/CI/CIchart.htm

[z726]

1. i am feeling better than last night after reading some of the threads on here.

2. good news, i found a cylindrical 500g weight, which, as luck would have it, fits perfectly into my skin when i stretch my skin out, and i can easily tape it there with masking tape. im gonna wear it under my clothes to school tomorow. =-)


3. what is CI?

Don't know whether you've gone to bed already or not, but you may want to hold off on using the weight until you've tried it out first around the house. If you're walking around at school, it might turn some heads if the weight were to come loose and fall out of your pants, or if it were bothering you and you had to reach in there and make an adjustment. I don't know if masking tape would be all that gentle on the skin, or if it would hold the weight on very well.

CI stands for "coverage index," a webpage with a chart made by another restorer showing photos of penises with different amounts of skin covering them. Many guys here have found it useful when describing their progress.

[Samurai Drac]

irus_secaris:

one of the best things you can do, if you truly want to make a difference, is contact Attorneys for the Rights of the Child. Given your age, you may be able to be one of the first adolescents to challenge the gender-discriminating Anti-FGM law. You could help save millions of baby boys from suffering what you have, and will, go through.


Contact this man:

J. Steven Svoboda, Esq.
Attorneys for the Rights of the Child
2961 Ashby Avenue
Berkeley, CA 94705
USA

Phone 510-464-4530

If I were you, I'd call every day and leave a message with your home phone number, asking him to call back and discreetly ask for you so as not to alert your mother as to who he might be. Be sure to mention your age (and specific birthday) when you leave a message; the fact that you may have been born after the FGM law went into effect could be a HUGE opportunity for you to fight against what has been done to you, and all of us, and all of the baby boys yet to be born into this world.

You can also visit their webpage at http://www.arclaw.org/

[peterpink]

irus_secaris:one of the best things you can do, if you truly want to make a difference, is contact Attorneys for the Rights of the Child. Given your age, you may be able to be one of the first adolescents to challenge the gender-discriminating Anti-FGM law. You could help save millions of baby boys from suffering what you have, and will, go through.

I second that.

[irus_secaris]

1. wait, so its illigal to circumsize women but not men? thats fucking heinus!

2. i wore the weight last night and today. noone could tell under my jeans. the masking tape held extreemly well, but hurt a little when taking it off

3. im gonna email him.

4. did anyone get the latin meaning of my username?

[irus_secaris]

what is the guys email adress?

[z726]

So apparently the masking tape adhesive is pretty strong. While that might sound good for keeping a device on, you don't want to hurt yourself while taking it off. There are all kinds of tapes available in the first aid section of your local drugstore, which are made to be applied to skin. Their adhesives are more gentle, but tape users still need to be careful removing it to avoid irritating the skin. I would recommend doing some research online, and asking all kinds of questions about it, so you know exactly what you're doing and how you can avoid anything that might hurt.

I don't know Latin, but if I did the right Google searches, Irus is a genus of saltwater clams, and secaris is the present passive indicative conjugation of the verb seco, to cut. Are you sure you didn't mean to use the adjective sectarius?

[Samurai Drac]

what is the guys email adress?

I sent you a PM with more information a few minutes ago, so be sure to check that if you have not already.

Yes, it has been illegal to change or injure in any form at any level the genitals of a female since 1996 (and even before that, girls were never circumcised in hospitals routinely, unlike baby boys.). Baby boys get over half of their penile skin cut off all the time, approx ~35-40% on the west coast and 65% on the east coast. The rates are probably much higher, though, as not all hospitals report their circumcision rates.

With any luck within 1-20 years we will see a regenerative medicine technique to regrow the specialized lost tissue.

[Samurai Drac]

Here is David Llewellyn's lawyer profile (with contact info):

http://www.avvo.com/attorneys/30303-ga-david-llewellyn-495730.html

[Samurai Drac]

Irus, I'd also advise against using a 500g weight. That is a huge amount, thats 1.1 pounds. At your age, that is a lot of weight, and even for us older folks, it could be damaging to you. I myself only use half a pound (8 ounces) and I am 22! I would advise against using the 500g weight, and find something lighter.

[photenman]

The email for Steven Svoboda, leader of Attorneys For the Rights of the Child, who has helped bring circumcision lawsuits, is arc@post.harvard.edu.

Also, many of us believe that male circumcision, like female circumcision, is illegal too. It's like slavery, "just" not prosecuted for 100+ years. When you are 21 you can bring suit, including for discrimination against males.

Also I concur that parents are deceived by doctors so I would try to direct your blame there. They persuade parents to say "yes". They don't disclose the risks, the pain (extreme) or the damage to sexual function. It's a fraud, a racket, they're quacks. (A quack was a doctor with a fake cure who shouted out his cure from a horse and carriage, then ran out of town before people figured it out.) It's really a very complex fraud, difficult to figure out, if say you don't know anyone who is intact or have never seen an intact penis. But once you see someone masturbate with an intact penis, there is an "an ha" moment where you say, oh my god, that's how it works, half my skin was amputated, I can't do what nature gave me (solo or with a partner).

Also, circumcision occurs early, so it's the "perfect crime". You don't know who did it to you, you don't know what was done to you was wrong or hurt you, you have to figure it out, then you can't complain to your parents (who are in denial). And circumcised men may be in denial themselves (don't want to admit it).

If you talk to a lawyer, asked whether you should get your medical records now, so you know who did this to you. In fact, maybe you can just ask the hospital to send you the records - a person has a right to his own medical records. They may say no because you are a minor but you can try. Or ask a lawyer, he/she will know.

PS You're doing great! Very smart young man. Figuring it out. Taking some action re restoring and talking to a lawyer. You will feel better, guaranteed. Lastly if/when you can afford it I would get a TLC-X from tlctugger.com. Much easier and I believe more effective than tugging.

[irus_secaris]

1. i emailed the man, and am waiting 4 a reply.

2. in latin, irus=hate or anger (in english u can see it in the word iritated)
and secaris means=of or at the cut.

3. unfortunantly i was born in jan. 31, 1996, and the fgm laws were enacted sept. 30 =-( however, i still hope 2 sue my dr, and get it 2 the supreme court, and have them declare circumcisions of either gender unconstitutional.

4. i dont know whether or not 2 restore through expantion, because i wanna b able 2 do foregen.

[AC_Tech85]

Get your ducks in a row. Have a plan of action to leave the house at 18 and be able to support yourself. When I found out when I was 18, I spent too long being angry and not bringing this up with a friendly lawyer. I believe also your options would be limited to suing your circumcising doctor or rabbi, the hospital, and/or your own parents. You may have to argue that before a court that even though the hospital or rabbi have been relieved of wrong doing (having received proxy consent via your parents), your parents' choice had no legitimate basis as there was no medical need for the amputation. Oh, and you might want to consider abandoning your religion. Also show that the amputation violates your religious beliefs. Parents can only force their religion on their children to the point of leaving them physically whole, IMO.

You have an uphill battle. Do not expect victory. That would set you up for even more emotional trauma.

On a side note, I do understand there are those in the Jewish faith who advocate abandoning circumcision, but maintaining your religious practices, if any, may make litigation even harder.

[irus_secaris]

my moms a jew. im not, im an atheist

[Them Boots]

I don't blame you for being an atheist, many times it seems like a more rational choice than buying into any of these organized religions.

Consider the typical scene at a Bris, especially in the old days. Mohel sucking on the baby's mangled penis with his mouth, the parents and relatives swooning with joy and rapture......makes me sick to my stomach to even think about it.

Good luck with your case, I hope this finally forces some change on a legislative level.

[madbr3991]

i too have considered suicide. after finding out what was done to me. i knew what was done to me before. before i learned the truth about circumcision. i had accepted my mothers explanation. my mom told me "if you had not been circumcised your penis would have FALLEN OFF". but then i found out the truth. a doctor just wanted to make some quick $$$ off me and my mom. when i found out my body had been altered for no medical reason i started to get depressed. that was actually the second point in my life where i had considered suicide.

i am still alive. i realized if i died. i would not be able to teach anyone. about this completely barbaric blood ritual. that people have been doing to there children without a second thought. i have friends and family that would be very sad if i just "punched my ticket".

the only person that can decide if you want to live is you. dont ever let anyone take that from you.

[photenman]

It may not matter when you were born for purposes of a claim, other than having to wait until you are 21 to reach the age of majority to bring suit. E.g., the female anti-genital cutting law passed in 1996 which became effective in 1997 contains findings that it was already illegal, before the law was passed, to cut a female's genitals without adult consent. So it was already illegal. So is male genital cutting - it breaks the same laws. E.g., constitutional right to privacy. There are plenty of grounds for bringing suit. In 7 years the legal landscape will be a lot clearer.

[Tally]

It may not matter when you were born for purposes of a claim, other than having to wait until you are 21 to reach the age of majority to bring suit.
Anyone interested in suing over their circumcision needs to consult a lawyer immediately. The age at which a person can bring suit varies depending upon the jurisdiction. Anyone waiting until they are 21 to investigate their options may be surprised to learn that the statute of limitations has already run.

As a point of interest, a minor can bring a lawsuit through a Guardian ad Litem (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legal_guardian#Guardian_ad_litem) or "next friend," typically a parent, but not necessarily.

For real legal advice, see a lawyer, as soon as possible.

[Dasher]

Some law firms will take cases on a pro bono basis, which means you don't have to pay. If you're a teenager, it is much more likely they would treat your case as a pro bono claim. There might not be a lot of money in your case, which might make a pro bono case more likely for them to accept. Some law firms do a surprising number of pro bono cases.

True, your case might not be ripe until you turn 18, but you never know. Some law firms will give you a free consultation in any event, so give them a try. They might want you to drop by and talk to them. Go for it. It will increase your practical knowledge.

Another thing you can do is research the case law on the subject. Find out where your nearest public law library is, and check out the case law. The law librarian will probably be glad to help you.

[irus_secaris]

1. i just found i have my frenulum fully intact! ^_^

2. i told a bunch of my friends about the atrocities of circumcision. they, as i, were outraged, and i got most 2 start thinking about restoring. =-)
(one joked he'd stop eating his favorite cerial, rice crispies because it bears the name Kelogg. lol.)

[madbr3991]

i tried to sue in washington state. i found that my legal window had closed. im 23 and i only had 3 years after i was 18 to file suite.

i stopped buying Kelogg products altogether after i found out what Kelogg did.

[irus_secaris]

the lawyer hasnt responded to my email yet? =-(

[Dasher]

Try some local law firms too. They will know the laws of your state the best. And there may be a state law you can take advantage of that doesn't exist in other states.

[kestrelsire]

I think if you focus on the healing/restoring process and keep in communication with this forum or other similar support network you will do well. The process of restoring is a years-long commitment.

At only about 4 months into it, I already notice things feel much nicer. I'm 42; can only think with envy about how it would feel and operate as a teenager :). So consider your restoration strategy--techniques, devices, goals---and maybe just disengage from debating your mom. IMO

[photenman]

I think find a local personal injury lawyer in the yellow pages, then have a free consultation. Ask what the statute of limitations is (that is, how long do you have to bring suit). Probably age of majority (18 or 21) plus 3 years but you'll want to make sure. E.g., is it after discovery of a fraud? Just talking will help you get an idea of your options.

But I think view the legal remedy as something for the future. You may not be able to bring suit until majority plus 3. It would take a long time with an uncertain result and plaintiffs are not happy people.

Restoration has a certain and excellent result. I think focus on that and think of legal remedy as a back burner option. If you have years to bring suit, chances are there will be better case law by then as more people like you figure out what a scam circumcision is.

[Dasher]

There is no reason why you can't have a dual strategy: begin restoring, and start looking at your legal options too. I think it is a winning strategy.

You might want to start by getting a copy of your medical records, since they will be crucial to any future legal case.

There was a case where a young person successfully sued his parents for allowing him to be circumcised (there were other defendants, but the press played up the suing his parents part, because it was more newsworthy). I looked for the news clipping, but could not find it. Does anyone remember this case?

[irus_secaris]

1. i had 2 stop restoring 4 a little bit, because someone kicked me in the u-know-where. it hurt like hell, and the shaft swelled like a baloon. but now that its healed, i have a bunch of new skin there left over from the swelling, and it skin now goes 1/5 down my glans without any stress! =-) i dont suggest trying this tho.

[BlackSkullRacer613]

1. i had 2 stop restoring 4 a little bit, because someone kicked me in the u-know-where. it hurt like hell, and the shaft swelled like a baloon. but now that its healed, i have a bunch of new skin there left over from the swelling, and it skin now goes 1/5 down my glans without any stress! =-) i dont suggest trying this tho.


Yeah. No kidding. I have been restoring for around 11 months, and the skin goes half-way down the glans when fully flaccid, and I never had to get kicked in the testicles.

[WhirlWind]

1. i had 2 stop restoring 4 a little bit, because someone kicked me in the u-know-where. it hurt like hell, and the shaft swelled like a baloon. but now that its healed, i have a bunch of new skin there left over from the swelling, and it skin now goes 1/5 down my glans without any stress! =-) i dont suggest trying this tho.

That is seriously wrong, nobody is entitled to just do that to you.

I've read your story and you have my support. I was about 16 when I started to seriously understand what happened to me at birth. (Am 21 now)

My parents didn't take me seriously either when I brought it up. We fought viciously about it multiple times for countless hours. Doesn't matter what your parents think about it, do what is right for you.

I started restoring at around age 17 or 18, but have not been consistent or entirely faithful with the process. I am getting there, just more slowly than I be :D

You stick with it and keep restoring, and you'll get there!

[irus_secaris]

That is seriously wrong, nobody is entitled to just do that to you. its ok, it was an accident

[Them Boots]

Seriously, I would forget about trying to change your mom's mind about restoration, especially since she is Jewish. Even if you did persuade her that having a FS is better on an anatomical level, her religion will not allow her to think of circumcision as a bad thing. You could argue about this with her for years and most likely not change her mind.

It's a good idea to manually tug every chance you get, and if you have some way of making money on the side you might want to consider ordering one of Ron's TLC's or some other device if you think it would help, and if your mother would have a problem with it and you can't be sure of intercepting it in the mail then consider having it sent to a friend's house.

Think of it this way, if you faithfully pursue this, you will most likely be able to pass as uncut by the time you graduate from high school or even before then. It's been about 5 years since I started playing with the idea of restoring, if I had seriously committed to seeing this through no matter what I would probably be at or close to full erect coverage right now. But, since I didn't commit 100%, I still don't have jack shit and most likely am looking at another 5 years. Every day you delay is another day that gets added to the finish line, so keep going no matter what.