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January 15th, 2008, 13:24
Hey everyone, just thought Id take a minute to introduce myself. My name is john, I am 25 and have really been interested in restoring for some time now and have finally decided to start...I was circumsized as an infant and really didnt know much about this whole process until just a few years ago but never gave it much thought, untill I decided to look into it more and realized that something precious was taken from me and now i want to be made whole again...I know restoring cant bring back the "Real thing" but it in my opinion can get me as close as I can get. I do however, have a little opposition that I have to work with. My partner of four years doesnt really see the point to doing it and showed some anger when I brought up the idea to him...SO that is something that Im going to have to deal with and any advice would greatly be accepted. :) Anyway, I was cut pretty tightly but still have some mobility in the shaft skin...from that I have been able the use some home methods that I have found online...I started be using the " Film tube" method but decided to try something else because I didnt have the right tape to use and the tape I was using was tearing me apart and it hurt bad..but I did have some success with that, I got to the point where the shaft skin would bunch up behind the head but no roll over yet...I know its still to early...So I decided to try the O-ring method. I have heard from some people that this method works well but takes a while...I have enough shaft skin that I can get three rings on and hopefully will work up from there...A question that I have is, can anyone give me some advice on this method? Has it worked for any of you or those you know...? I do plan on ordering the TLC Tugger in a month or so but I wanted to make sure I could use it before I order it so Im trying to gain some skin before I do....So anyway, Let me know any advice you have..that would be great thanks again
January 15th, 2008, 16:43
My two cents.
Don't take this personally.
Anyone holding you back from what you really want to do isn't worth it.
It doesn't sound like you guys know each other well after 4 years.
Is your partner circumcised too? Maybe he doesn't want to deal with it.
Anyway, that's just me.
I hope it works out...
January 15th, 2008, 19:11
O rings work pretty well as retainers, but in my opinion don't work as well as actual tension devices. This process can take a very long time. My suggestion would be to try one of the commercially made tuggers, or try tape (and a strap) in the form of the pill vial method.
January 15th, 2008, 19:11
I'd be very surprised if someone with the slack for o-rings couldn't use tapeless devices, at least during the day. I have a 3-month no-questions-asked refund policy so you may as well not buy any more tape.
Regarding the partner, I say stick with calmly presenting what you know and why you think it's important. And make sure you know what you're talking about: http://Circumstitions.com
January 16th, 2008, 09:01
Being as I am only 18, I have not had many long relationships, but my ex boyfriend did not like uncut guys so I never talked about my desire to restore. Needless to say, he wasn't worth it, because he was very opinionated and always talked about how gross it was to be uncut. Because I'd very much rather be uncut, or restored, i should say, we broke up because I was restoring and figured if he does not like uncut guys then I was not the guy for him, nor was he the one for me. I am restoring and could not be happier. As someone said before, if he does not support your personal endeavors than I believe that he really is not "the one" for you. A partner should support you no matter what.
January 16th, 2008, 10:55
Thanks for the responses so far....they are helping, although I feel likeI must clarify something. I almost feel like Ive left my partner out to dry making him seem like he is a monster or something..He really isnt, I think its just hard for him to understand that I really want this...Its hard for him to understand how I dont feel like a whole person. thats something was taken away from me that I want to gain back...He feels like Im trying to change myself and he tells me he loves me for who I am now....So I think its hard for him to understand or accept that I feel there is something lacking in me or "on me" because he love me for who I am....I just need to make him understand and see that it really has nothing to do with him but with me....I just thought Id let yall know so you dont think hes this monster kinda person....I love him to and want to make him happy, but I also want to think of myself as well..Thanks again for the comments
January 16th, 2008, 16:39
a great site for support, along with this one, is restoreforskin.org. They are both really great sites.
January 17th, 2008, 09:56
You seem like you are on the right track. Remember some individuals here are more of an intactivist than others. Try and understand their advice as an opinion with their personal slant. Your defense of your BF/partner is a outward sign of your caring feelings and your attempt to protect him.
Also, when receiving advice always remember to interpret the experience level of the sender. At 25 I'm sure you feel differently about love, intensity and relationships than you did when 13, 15 or 20. The 20's are a time of considerable change for an individual....who you were at 20 will most likely be vastly different than when you are 29. Your opinion will continue to evolve as you grow older. There is no right or wrong choice. Make the choice that is right for you. Or if you make the wrong choice, life is about learning from your mistakes ... blessed distance and hindsight.
This is sounding way to Zen ...lol
If the relationship is important to you, do your best to maintain who you are and allow for the change which you are making to be understood. However, I believe you have some responsibility for helping your BF/partner understand the change. This is something new you are bringing into the relationship. Shall you ask or demand him to accept this change.
Also, you need to really focus on this questions: Is he concerned about the foreskin or the change(s) you are bringing into a relationship that he thought was fine? How secure is he in himself ? Remember too that this physical change you are making is a highly sexualized change. Sexuality is an area where even the most confident man has some weakness in his armor.
A thought that occurs to me, being as you both have the same equipment, is does he wonder if you want to have a foreskin and he doesn't have a foreskin, how do you feel about his penis? Turned around, if he is stimulated by the look of a circ penis, you can alway retract your new skin (and then pull it forward and then retract and then... wait that's a different type of advice ...lol)
So do you want to ask (sell the idea) or demand? In my experience the price (cost) of an acceptance through force always exceeds expectation.
I'll assume that you did not wake-up one morning as say, "I'm going to restore my foreskin." As your decision didn't happen overnight, his acceptance most likely will not either.
Perhaps you can change his opinions/support as you discuss the benefits and importance with him overtime. Perhaps not. Some men place less importance on discussion. Many men respond best to the physical and demonstrative approach. If he is more of this type of individual, over time as you continue to restore, you will be able to incorporate your foreskin into sexual play and pleasurable sensation that both of you can experience.
I personally am what I consider to be a very verbal male. However, I still like great sex better than talking. I'm guessing your BF/partner would enjoy great sex more than a discussion too ...or not ...lol!
If I've learned one thing as I have grown older, it that time and knowledge conquer most of life's issues. Life is sort of like the old saying for restorers: Worry less ...tug more.
Best of luck ...and happiness. My philosophy on life: you can never have too much foreskin so go "play" with yourself ! ;)
Just like David
January 25th, 2008, 13:32
Hi, There is nothing more important that being true to yourself, and it sounds like you are doing your best to be just that. I knew a guy a few years ago who told me he had restored his penis when he was in his teens. He restored because he said his penis had been cut crooked, and he felt it was seriously deformed. I kind of laughed off what he said that at the time because I felt it sounded incredible, and I didn't really believe him. My response was really shock, and my own secret feeling that I would love to have foreskin also, and didn't think it was possible. A year ago I went to a nude beach for the first time, and saw many men who had beautiful, natural, intact penises. For the first time in my life despite being heavily involved in sports...(read: many showers with the guys...) I felt naked and exposed compared to the men who had their glans covered up. I couldn't believe how heavy this hit me, and I remembered this guy who told me that he had restored. I decided that I would do it too, and after slow and careful research I am now taking the plunge. I couldn't be happier that I am, and feel like (almost!) shouting to the world the excitement I feel about making myself whole again. Good luck in every way. And remember in the end it is YOU who are living your life.
February 10th, 2008, 19:00
I would like to make a suggestion. If you want a really good restoration device for only a few dollars, check this out. Go to Wal-Mart and look in the hunting department and get a Crow call. There are some Duck calls that will work very nicely too. They will fit over the tip of the penis and they are fluted, so, the skin will fit over the device. You can then get a wrist rocket band and that will fit over the end of the crow call. I used some crazy glue to seal the end together. If you get one of these then you will understand exactly what I am talking about. Actually, they almost look like they were intended for restoration. Not bad for less than $10.00 Also, you can pop the end out of the thing and urination is a snap. I would post a pic of mine, but, I have it on at the moment. BTW, it is very comfortable too.
Too bad about your boyfriend, but, you obviously need to do exactly what you are doing and he should have been more understanding.
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