Young and with a Question.

[Scottie88]

I am currently in a nearly 2 year long, happy relationship with my first real love and sexual partner. (Some of you may know him on here as Jeff_MP) In the beginnig of our relationship, you could say I knew practically nothing of circumcision. I had heard of it sure, but never took the time to look into any detail on it.

It was up until about a third of the way into our relationship we were close enough, and he shared his secret with me, that he was circumcised as an infant.

I was devestated.. You would not Believe all of the emtions that came over me! It was unbearable to have to think that some money greedy doctor out there, and his parents! would force this horrible, completely uncompassionate act, on my Angel... and to see the pain in his eyes..and hear it his voice..was heartbreaking.

It was after that I began to get serious about what was truly going on. I did what research on it I could,

What the Hell are your reasons for this ungodly act? (referring to doctors)
What has he really lost, why is this causing my baby soo much suffering?
What is he gaining back by restoring?

I have done my very best to be every bit of supportive to him as I can. So many times I've wished to be able to fully give him back what he rightfully deserves, to end his suffering, but keep his motivation, or to at the very least be able to enter his mind, and truly inderstand, Truly Feel the anger, rage, sorrow, disgust, and every other emotion, so that in another way he is not alone, or so I can have greater grounds to be better supportive. I would do nearly anything to ease his pain..

So my question is.. How can I do that? How can I give him the best support possible? What are the best things to do to have a deeper, stronger connection with him?

I would love to hear from you fellow wives/partners and the ways you support your partner, and even those curcumcised men out there who have wonderful supportive partners, and what they do for you to make you feel closer, greater, stronger.

Thank you very much, I'm glad I finally made my way here.

(P.S. I love you sweetie...)

[greg_b]

For me, it helps when my wife lets me vent, talk to her about the issues, is engaged in our discussions and listens to me, is interested in my progress and lets me know how it makes things better for her sexually.

Regards

[z726]

So my question is.. How can I do that? How can I give him the best support possible? What are the best things to do to have a deeper, stronger connection with him?

Sounds like you two have a pretty strong connection already. All I could say is for support, encourage him in his foreskin restoration efforts - ask about it every now and then. Pretty much everyone I know who chats about it online finds that doing so helps them stay motivated. For him, I would think having that support from someone who cares about him so deeply would go a long way.

[cliffbars]

I'd ask as many questions as possible because the more you ask, the more he'll feel like you're trying to understand what he's going through. Don't get frustrated with him whenever he's really upset about it. Just listen to him, that's all you can really do being his girl. He'll really appreciate you

[Scottie88]

Thank you all for the advice. I really hope I can leave another positive mark in his life, and others aswell.

[photenman]

I think it would be very encouraging for a partner to comment on progress/growth, or to say that sex is better. And if sex is better, to thank the partner for efforts to restore.

[His_image]

You asked for advice on how to be better at supporting your man through his regrowth process.

I would applaud you already even if all you did was just not get in his way. With my wife, if I don't hide my shaftskin expansion device, it mysteriously disappears. This is only an example of why I applaud you, because in many other ways she's a great wife and friend.:)

I seriously thought about not submitting this because it might sound a little like I'm just complaining. But, I submitted it anyway in hopes that it encourages you.

[photenman]

I totally agree. Although my devices don't disappear, I get zero support. No questions, encouragement, zippo. It's upsetting. So any support will be greatly appreciated.