Cant get my girlfriend on board.

[RideTheSpiral]

Hello!

I have been strongly considering foreskin restoration for a while now due to loss of sensation. i would have already started but unfortunately my girlfriend is completely against it. She, like most of society, is misinformed about foreskin and she is convinced its unsanitary and to have sex with an intact penis would instantly give her an infection.

I dont want this to sound like I am bragging, but due to my size sex can be painful for her and often results in bleeding and pain afterwards and sometimes days after. Ironically enough, she has even gotten mild infections from it. Since my penis is so desensitized i am not always gentle which doesnt help the situation. So i think foreskin restoration would not only benefit me but her as well. We've been together for 3 and a half years so i am not about to say "you wont let me restore so see ya".

I have been gathering information online to share with her about how foreskin really isnt unsanitary like everyone thinks. i want to have a serious discussion and explain all the positive aspects but she can be a VERY STUBBORN lady. i am afraid she will just be grossed out and refuse to look at the info.

Does anyone have any advice on dealing with partners against restoration?

Thank you!

[mrbologna]

Spiral,

Thanks for sharing. I'm in the same boat, only I'm now married to the stubborn lady. Anyhow it sounds like you are trying to gain more info and that's important. I think you'll find as you continue to search and share with her that cleanliness isn't an issue. It may just take some time for her to become comfortable with the idea.
It may also be that since you two have already been together 3+ years you both have come to figure eachother out, how sex works between you. (similiar to my wife's reasoning) She may be afraid that this could change the way you currently make love.
My wife isn't afraid of the dirtiness cuzz there isn't any as long as i maintain cleanliness as usual. She's afraid and speaks from experience that the foreskin is uncomfortable inside her. She also has admitted that aesthetically she likes the cut penis, but i feel this is just what she's experienced most in life so she's become most comfortable with it.
I am now just being patient in hopes that she will think of me and my reasons for restoring. We just had a good chat about a week ago. I will send her some links so that she can continue to grow in understanding.
Have you expressed how important it is to you?

Best regards
MrB

[z726]

Tell her how it might help solve these problems you've both been having with intercourse. For this, you wouldn't even need an entire foreskin - just enough slack skin on your shaft to reduce friction from thrusting. There are simple manual tugging exercises you can do to loosen and expand the skin.

Gaining back some sensitivity would be as simple as keeping the skin held over your glans for a while, which can be done using tape or one of the cones Ron sells. This prevents the glans from drying out, plus its surface doesn't accumulate as much dead tissue - actually it starts shedding some that's built up over the years, so there's less distance between whatever's rubbing against it and the nerve endings underneath, so you get more pleasure.

[admin]

Slinky slack will help her accomodate you in comfort.

Tell her most of the world is intact and doing fine. No matter what myth's she's heard, NOT ONE national medical association on earth endorses routine circumcision. If it had net medical benefits that wouldn't be true.

Tell her not to worry as you're NOT regrowing a foreskin. You're only lengthening the skin you have so it can act like a foerskin a give you some of the benefits of being intact with NONE of the effects she would call drawbacks.

That said, if you wear your skin over the glans all the time you will take on a sweet musky aroma when it's been a while since your last shower. But by then your ass and armpits ain't exactly roses either. Anyone who's a gentleman would never attempt to get intimate while smelly. Worst case, slap a condom over that thing.

[peterpink]

Would she be prepared to be circumcised if you preferred it that way?Who belongs to your penis? You or her. Grow a pair and go for it. If you do not, your gradual loss in sensitivity with will eventually take all joy away from sex.
Show her:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DD2yW7AaZFw

[greg_b]

It might help her to read this site:

http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/

Best

[photenman]

Here's a good resource for you re how circumcision impairs sexual function, and relatedly how having a foreskin is better for female partners. http://www.cirp.org/library/sex_function/. It increases the likelihood that the female will reach orgasm.

There's a good video by doctors about the foreskin and its function here: http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcisi...o/prepuce.html, and info here: http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcisi.../foreskin.html.

As someone else said, foreskin restoration is the answer to the friction problem you and your wife are having. A circumcised penis is essentially a dry stick that rubs women raw. Restoration allows the foreskin to glide, and also increases lubrication from the male.

My wife is conservative and skeptical, but finally I told her I was restoring, and after two years she has noticed an improved sex life for her, plus she's pleased that I am happy with the improvement.

At worst, wear a tugging device when you're not together. You'll get to restore your penis, which you own - it's your choice, and over time you will both benefit. In fact it won't take long covering your glans and tugging or using a device to notice the improvement once you have slack.

[Appalled Observer]

Originally Posted by peterpink

Would she be prepared to be circumcised if you preferred it that way?Who belongs to your penis? You or her. Grow a pair and go for it. If you do not, your gradual loss in sensitivity with will eventually take all joy away from sex.
Show her:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DD2yW7AaZFw

Hear hear.
And ask her a few searching questions like, "Why would nature provide a bloke (all blokes!! Every single one) with a foreskin if it was at all dangerous to mankind?" Something useless that is prone to disease would have been evolved away, or never have evolved int eh first place.
Nature is funny like that--it keeps the bits of evolution that assist growth, and dumps the ones that inhibit (or endanger) growth.

EDIT--btw, if you start to get the feeling that she's just a sheep that refuses to admit to sheepiness regardless of anyhting (including your welfare, physical and emotional) then maybe you've outgrown her....

[Purist]

Originally Posted by admin

Tell her not to worry as you're NOT regrowing a foreskin. You're only lengthening the skin you have so it can act like a foerskin a give you some of the benefits of being intact with NONE of the effects she would call drawbacks.

What?? Now I'm depressed.

I hate the word "fauxskin". Isn't that what that is describing?

[jeff71913]

I believe the restored foreskin is more similar to the real thing than most think. If a woman does not like a natural foreskin then she may not care for a restored foreskin. The primary reason is the scent of the restored foreskin. My restored foreskin does have a scent that some men and women would find objectionable. I should mention that I'm very clean, but it is what it is. Personally, I find the scent very arousing. Everyone is different. I should also mention that I am far from finished with my restoration regimen.
I believe a lot of women have the "my shit don't stink" attitude and even though their vagina may smell terrible they will not see it that way. This may be the single most significant reason that circ continues today. Your stuff smells bad, but mine don't. Cut your's off, but leave mine alone. That's pretty much how it works and since we live in a matriarchal society that has been eronneously led to believe it is a patriarchial society that's not likely to change anytime soon.