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Old July 16th, 2013
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I agree, that's not a real day. If it is it needs to be seriously considered and a job/career change or adjustment is in order. He's going to burn out and it's not healthy.
I've gone through busy periods where I was literally able to devote about 4 hours per day to sleep. Anything that takes time during such a day costs sleep. Some folks live this way for weeks/months during projects.
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Old July 19th, 2013
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Hi again!

Are you seriously suggesting he desert the military (reserves) so he can have more free time? I'm pretty sure that'd be illegal. I agree that the hours he works are not healthy, and I sure wish the army didn't make him spend all his free time doing unpaid work for them. But I'm not here to discuss my husband's career, unless he's going to be switching to a career in porn where his penis would be relevant

So back on topic: I keep forgetting that he can tug on his sleep! He generally needs a lot of sleep or he doesn't function well. So he gets about 10 hours of sleep every night. That's plenty of tugging right there!
Do you really have to use the strap over the shoulder at night? If he only ended up tugging at night, the skin would grow unevenly, right? Does that mean he should buy a tugger with weights instead of a tugger with a strap? Assuming it's ok to use weights at night (edit: found the declaration here that goes into more detail)

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I agree... If it falls off it falls off. It's super easy to apply. What's the issue?
Basically concerned about:
1- seriously dirty hands that take forever to scrub and never get clean. Oil, grease, dirt, chemicals, etc. It would get the tugger all grimy, right? Or isn't it that big a deal? The reason I ask all these questions is because you all have more experience and we want to make sure we buy the right product for him.
2- the bathroom at work has little privacy and he doesn't want his family knowing he's restoring (he's pretty shy about sex). I'm guessing it probably won't be that big a deal but I thought I'd ask anyway.

Honestly I don't even think the shop has a scrubbie at the bathroom sink. I don't remember seeing one. I'll just send him off to work with a nice scrubbie for his hands and nails, hopefully it helps. Hey, I'd even have him bring a jar of coconut oil but he'd probably get some odd stares from his family!

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Old July 19th, 2013
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Tugging while asleep carries risk of injury. Nocturnal erections can increase tension enough to cause injury.

Befroe trying that, he should simulate it to make sure it is safe, or at least the risk is reduced. He should get dressed for bed, apply tension, get under the covers and give himself a few good hard erections. Roll around to try and do what he does in sleep. Everything OK? then give it a try, but I would back of tension a bit more the first few times, just to be safe. You might be amazed what you do when sleeping.

For this reason, that you have to be careful with tension, I do not think that 10 hours tugging while asleep = tugging 10 hrs while awake. I think it is far more likly that there will not be enough tension for optimal growth except while he has nocturnal erections. But men have used this method successfully, so if he is comfortable with the potential risk, give it a try.

That is one reason I frequently suggest trying short tugging sessions. I suspect that you can get as much, probably more, growth with two, 15 min sessions a day than you will with 10 hrs tugging at night, simply because you can monitor and fine tune the tension better, and know that it is staying at the optimal level for cell division.

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he can tug in his sleep! He generally needs a lot of sleep or he doesn't function well. So he gets about 10 hours of sleep every night. That's plenty of tugging right there!
Beginners often don't start getting through whole nights with the device still in place until after a couple months. So you can't count ALL those hours as productive tugging just yet.

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Do you really have to use the strap over the shoulder at night?
NEVER tug down toward the leg in bed. Nocturnal erections must be allowed to point their natural direction. SERIOUS injury could result (I've never heard of a serious tugging injury). {mod: Right after I typed this, someone reported a skin tear to the frenular area. Make sure the device fits, never tolerate pain.}

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it's ok to use weights at night?
Since gravity points down, he'd have to sleep standing up, OR use a pulley to transfer the weight hanging down behind the headboard to a twine running past his face hooked to his device.

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dirty hands that take forever to scrub and never get clean. Oil, grease, dirt, chemicals, etc. It would get the tugger all grimy, right?
That's going to be a problem at such a job site with any method. Sounds more and more like he should just wear a retaining cone there. But he'd ordinarily need to touch his penis even to urinate. I think he needs to make provisions for a couple semi-sanitary private times per day. He can bring spare clean cones so he just needs to get his hands clean enough to handle his genitals.

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he doesn't want his family knowing he's restoring
Modesty or needless secrecy is costly in terms of freedom. He's letting the circumciser continue to harm him by limiting his associations and openness with others.

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I don't even think the shop has a scrubbie at the bathroom sink.
Disposable gloves, perhaps? Apply them over the dirt just to use the facilities?
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Old July 21st, 2013
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You're right, I don't know what I was thinking. Now that you mention those things it sounds pretty obvious
Sending you an email now, since he wants to use a money order. God forbid the bank knows he bought a tugger, hehe.

Then I'll print out the information on your website since it's better if he reads it himself.

Thanks for all your help!
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Old July 21st, 2013
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Are you seriously suggesting he desert the military (reserves) so he can have more free time? I'm pretty sure that'd be illegal.
Look, in all fairness you didn't state what his career was earlier. No need to be rude. How was I supposed to know he was an active reservist?

Some people (like your husband) do have crazy work JOBS, not just schedules. You made it sound like his "schedule" was busy. So many people glorify and revere their "busy" status these days it's hard to tell those who are genuinely busy from those who choose to be busy or not make time for their projects. A truck driver also has a busy schedule, but, for example, he could easily wear a tugger for many hours a day if he actually chose to commit. We were trying to determine what "busy" meant.

I'm sorry but it's hard to be any help when we offer assistance only to slowly uncover information like this two pages in.

Honestly it sounds to me like he should start cross taping and manual tugging in the bathroom, shower, and for 10 minutes before bed. Then wear a tugger whenever he has leave or something. I would highly suggest against tugging at night, especially in the early stages.

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Old July 22nd, 2013
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I was in the active military for 3 years, during war time. Lot of downtime. Plenty of time to do whatever. Can reserve active duty, which you haven't actually made a specific reference to, be any different? Of course not, things haven't basically changed since the roman centurions first geared up, except maybe the availability of more free time nowadays. Anybody who's actually been in knows what I mean. Or is the reference to reserve meetings (not active duty)? These are......meetings. Maybe reserve maneuvers, which soon end? What primary MOS in the reserves only allows 30 minutes per day, and that only to eat? "Unpaid work"? Everybody gets paid; ain't much, but you get paid. Did you mean work outside his MOS? Everybody does that at one time or another. And then you go back to your usual duty, with its downtime, and/or time off. He's around his family during all this? He comes home during this?

Something still doesn't sound real.
Ya sorry for giving you a hard time earlier. I'm not understanding this post at all and see your point now.
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Old July 22nd, 2013
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Well... this is awkward, but my husband wants me to take care of this for him. Could someone recommend the best restoring device for him?
  • He measured flaccid glans width, then erect, and got the same number for both. Did he measure wrong, or is it OK?
  • With a lot of effort he got 1cm (10mm) forced erect coverage, will this be enough for the TLC tugger?
Last year (I think), he tried manual tugging and then crown tape. But he doesn't have free time to do the manual tugging anymore, and he said it was annoying to have to replace the tape each time he had to pee. He said he liked the tape, though, it stayed in place nicely and was comfortable.

He got a lot of slinky skin and his glans got all shinny and pink, and he became more sensitive too (huge difference in sensitivity!). But when he stopped, it went back to how it was before, so he'll be starting over again.
Luckily he's a grower, not a show-er. When he's flaccid it's pretty easy to stretch his skin over the glans.

  • What's the best device for someone with an active job? Climbing ladders, for example. Strap, or weights? Something else?
  • It would be good to have a device that he doesn't have to mess around with too much when he's at work. His hands are very dirty and greasy at work, even when he gets home it's very difficult to clean it all off. He would probably get the device all grimy if he has to fuss with it all the time.

I think that's all the questions. Is there anything else he should be asking?
Dr. James Bigelow said that some men who wanted his book, The Joy Of Uncircumcising, were too shy to order it themselves, and had their wives order it for them.
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Old July 22nd, 2013
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There's this other method you may want to look into called reverse taping. It uses a bit of tape, but he'd still be able to pee with it on. It can be worn for 12+ hours, is painless, and isn't noticeable while working and performing daily functions. There's a great thread on this site about it:
http://www.foreskin-restoration.net/...t=6111&page=13

It costs very little (nothing if you have the materials at home), and some people have reported that it restores a bit faster than conventional devices. Try looking into it. I'm using it now, and I like the results.

If you need any more help, ask me. It took me some time to understand what exactly reverse taping is and how to apply it.
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Old July 23rd, 2013
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It's a basic courtesy to assume the best of people, particularly on forums, until and unless they prove otherwise. It's not difficult to let a conversation run, or indeed to just leave it, in the face of vague suspicions. Had I been the OP, I would probably have run a mile. I hope she got the information she was seeking, and managed to ignore the accusations.
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