Just Plain Mad

[bsidney]

I am just mad that I was circed! I am so mad today! I have wanted a foreskin for over 20 years and they took it from me when I was a baby. I just wanted to vent a little today. Sometimes you just get mad and need to get it out. I can't talk to anyone else about it. They just don't care or understand. I won't tell my mother and am not wanting to hurt her for making a bad decision no matter how bad it affected me. I'm not one of those guys that hates their parents. She just was given very bad information. I just get myself all worked up about it every once in a while. Like today. I know there is nothing I can do to change it and will go back to normalcy tomorrow. Just still find it incredible how ignorant and sheepish we all are. To mutilate a childs body is so discusting and if we cut off their toe it would be considered child abuse! Cut the foreskin off and it's ok.

How can we have such a perverted society?

If only the insurance companies would realize they could increase profits by marketing against it.

At least my anger is off my chest for now and I can go on. I am restoring and have good progress, just wish I were finished. Really wish I had never had to restore and was not mutilated to begin with. When I think of all of the trouble I have had through the years with sex it just gets me going. I lost out on the best years of sex. The women always loved it that I didn't cum for most times an hour or even 2 or 3 but I always wanted to be quick. Just once I would have liked to cum in a couple of minutes.

I think that my restoration progress even makes me more angry. I now know why I had the problems and what I was missing. It is much easier to cum now, but I am older now and the sexual electricity I had as a young man is passed. How cruel it is to take that from someone.

Thanks for the place to put my feelings. Now I can go back to my life and look on the brite side that some day I will be as close to normal as possible. I already have the benefit of having a foreskin, just not long enough. How good it would have been to have sex with a foreskin in my 20s or 30s. Something I can never experience! I was angry when I started writing, now just sad. Usually I am just happy to have found this site and to find out about restoring and it just gets me down sometimes. I know I will be ok. Just needed to get it out.

[admin]

Originally Posted by bsidney

If only the insurance companies would realize they could increase profits by marketing against it.

I see it differently.

US health insurance companies sell mostly to companies providing benefits for their employees. The benefit is part the overall compensation attracting employees to the workplace.

The insurance company doesn't care what is or is not covered. They will charge premiums reflecting the expected costs (plus profit) of whatever coverages the employer opts to take.

Employees don't care because the cost of infant circumcisions - when dispersed among all employees - is quite low. And the employer doesn't want the workforce to have an attitude that the employer is nickling and diming their co-workers.

The insurance company makes money not just on the health coverage provided but also on the transaction processing for every procedure. So the more procedures are covered, the more business they do.

WHERE in this model is the incentive to drop coverage for infant circumcision?

[MisterPig]

I work for a health insurance company.

The number of procedures billed doesn't have anything to do with how much profit we make (at least in the smaller sense that we are talking about here). Circumcision (icd9 code 640) costs are usually just bundled into the overall birth charges. In almost all cases the amount we pay to the hospital for a birth will not change if a circumcision is billed or not billed. Now, there are exceptions, but that is the general rule.

Technicality: as stated above, payment to hospital won't vary much as things are now - however, if a procedure is deemed "not allowed" then that will mean that the hospital has to either write it off or charge the parents for it directly.

If more states continue to defund circumcision for state sponsored health programs (Medicaid, CHIPS, etc...) there is a chance that private insurance will follow their lead also stop paying for it...(aka "disallow" it)

My state Colorado defunded circumcision but we had to fight this last legislative session to keep it from coming back. So, lobbying to get it defunded at the state level is a good idea - lobbying private insurance companies is probably a waste of time, in my opinion. When most people stop cutting their babies, private insurance will stop paying for it....or, they will charge a premium to the employer groups for a "cadillac" option. LOL.

[MisterPig]

Anyway, yeah, I think your message is one that people need to hear. The arguments about whether circ might have benefits assume that there are no harms. Which is of course not true. So until people understand that there is something to lose....