Anyone's partner noticed their restoration without being told?

[wifeandmama]

Originally Posted by (CG)

For me, it has always been a two-fold rationale. First, I like to please my wife sexually. It gives me immense personal satisfaction. Whatever I can do to improve in this department is good for her, good for me, and good for the marriage. Second, I do want to look like my boys. Because cutting is just not an option, I decided to restore.

(CG)

These are almost the exact same reasons my hubby has.

[Bobc4383]

I have been restoring for about 6 weeks and gone from CI2 to CI3-4 (primarily manual but also have a CAT IIQ which really helps). I am 65 and been married about 10 years. I too am restoring without telling her. Not sure what she would say so 'can't stand the answer so don't ask the question'. Sex life is good for old folks, and I am not quite to the point of having glide action. She apparently doesn't 'look' when I am naked so no comments so far even though it is somewhat obvious to me.

Her first husband was not cut (I think - we were all in college 40 years ago in the same dorm, but he was a 'large' guy so might have had a below average size if that makes sense). She was a widow for 10 years, and her only comment after she first saw me naked was I seemed to be 'bigger' (I am average at best).

So I guess 1) I would like her to notice without telling her and 2) I'd like to tell her but not sure of her reaction. I am not hiding it - just not sure how to approach it.

Just one guy's story.

Bob

[photenman]

When I started restoring, I only told my wife that I was going to wear the MySkinCone at night because I heard it makes the head of the penis more sensitive. That's all I said for maybe one and one-half years. She's pretty straight and I did not know what she would say. So I'm with you on that.

Then we were on a trip and I told her everything. About how circumcision messes you up, you can regrow foreskin, it improves sensitivity and sex for her. She didn't ask questions or get involved as I might have liked, but didn't have a problem with it.

Then soon after that she noticed the gliding action and said sex was better for her.

So now I talk about it more openly, like look how much more foreskin I have now than before (essentially none), it's more sensitive, I wish I had some flaccid coverage (getting close), etc. She still doesn't give me much positive feedback as I would like. But she has to be pleased because I get much more aroused during handjobs, oral sex, and intercourse, and there is less friction for her. We don't use lubrication like we did before. So I just carry on about my restoration project - with a whole bunch of devices, weights, etc. in a drawer - and have her general support. That's just how it goes with us.

So I imagine over time you'll tell her, and by then she'll be pleased about it, especially since her prior spouse was intact.

Hey, glad you found someone special, and yes sex can be great for older folks as well, especially those smart enough to restore.

[Brandon77]

Well, I am actually currently single. However, I was recently intimate with an x who hadn't seen me since I started my restoration efforts. It goes without saying that my newskin was immediately noticed during foreplay and greatly appreciated I might add. Nothing was said during our session, but I knew that the additional skin on my penis was detected because during initial touching and subsequent oral my skin was repeatedly pulled over my glans. I must say that it felt great..... I also must add that during intercourse I was able to experience gliding action for the first time in my life. In fact it was the first time I was able to have sex with little or no lube. Once I was inside, I was able to very easily pull in and out, and the resulting orgasm was positively outstanding. It wasn't until we were done that the question was presented reguarding my newskin. After a brief explanation, I was told the my efforts were greatly appreciated, and it was at that point that I felt validated. It was actually quite nice....

[Bobc4383]

Thanks to all for the encouragement - I almost brought it up a couple of days ago but have not yet. It sounds like as long as one doesn't 'damage the equipment' that the wife/girlfriend are either neutral or supportive. As I said, my concern would be her asking '...why would you want to do that?' and not really have a good answer. I thought about starting with the anology that would she like the opportunity to have the same size/shape boobs she had in college or nearly married? At 64, she isn't as 'perky' as before but not the reason I married her 10 years ago. I'll keep waiting for the proper time and meanwhile continue to restore and 'maybe' she will notice on her own. Have a Happy 4th. Bob

[nekkid50s]

I restored on and off for two years and my wife didn't know. Then one day she found my tugger and asked what it was, I was ready to tell her it was a plumbing part for a toilet (she would buy that!) but instead just told her. She thinks I'm nuts but now I openly tug in front of her and it is ver liberating. She said she noticed a difference, but thought it was age, sagging skin maybe, I'm 61. AShe also said she thought I was getting bigger, maybe bigger diameter due to more skin? I do hang longer than before tugging but erect lenght is about the same. Fess up, you'll feel better.

[nekkid50s]

And one more thing,,,,NEVER EVER ask a woman if she would like to have the boobs she had when she was younger!! ALWAYS say she is just as beatiful as you remember her being,,,maybe even more. Just saying,,,

Also, I don't think anyone, the restoring man or the partner could argue that sex is not better with more foreskin.

[WoodyHoody]

Originally Posted by nekkid50s

I restored on and off for two years and my wife didn't know. Then one day she found my tugger and asked what it was, I was ready to tell her it was a plumbing part for a toilet (she would buy that!) but instead just told her. She thinks I'm nuts but now I openly tug in front of her and it is ver liberating. She said she noticed a difference, but thought it was age, sagging skin maybe, I'm 61. AShe also said she thought I was getting bigger, maybe bigger diameter due to more skin? I do hang longer than before tugging but erect lenght is about the same. Fess up, you'll feel better.

I have a similar story. I am 65 and my restoration has been going on for much longer than 2 years. I have never told my wife what I am doing. As the visual changes have been very gradual, they have gone mostly unremarked and she puts them down to the aging process. I now look completely uncircumcised when flacid and she accepts that and enjoys it. Says I remind her of our boys when they were little.

[regencybrougham]

I had discussed with my wife that restoration was possible and I had told her a bit about some of the methods. However, when I started cross-taping I did not mention it to her because I felt it was a little odd and just figured that I would tell her later.

I had been doing it for a week or two and she was in the hall bathroom looking for something in the drawers. I didn't think anything of it because a roll of medical tape in a bathroom drawer is not something that would normally grab one's attention. Suddenly I heard her call out in an amused voice, "______, you are taping! HAHAHA!" At that point, the cat was out of the bag!

[jphdg1]

I had started restoring for about a week before I met my girlfriend in July 2012. It has been five months now. I never considered myself tightly cut to begin with. She never said anything over the five months we have been seeing each other but since we met, I have gained a fair bit more slack. I have really noticed changes, but my girlfriend never said anything about it except has commented that sex between us is better all the time. I have noticed recently that she is playing more with the slack skin now but still never asked any questions about it. She recently saw me with some decent flaccid rollover but it did not really create any major curiosity surprisingly. She however was interested in seeing it like that though.

I however took some courage two days ago and spoke to her about my views on Circumcision and wanted to know her view. We had an interesting discussion and found she was on my side that more than likely not wanting her children to be circumcised if she had any, but was to be a mutual decision between us if we decided on kids. I was glad to hear that as I don't want my children circumcised and explained why I felt that way.

Her view on her partner was indifferent. She however commented I have a reasonable amount of slack skin for circumcised and liked it.

It was during this conversation I told her what I want to do, so now the cat is out of the bag completely!

I now have got her cautious support and acceptance of my FR journey.