Words Unspoken

How common is this?

My DH is an "anti circ circ'd man". He says he will never forgive his parents for removing his foreskin as a baby (though he would never say that to their face, he just keeps it to himself).

So of course we didn't get DS done :no:. My sister is due for her first baby in January, and when the topic came up about circumcision she said something about how it was possible she'd have it done if the baby is a boy. My DH kept quiet in front of her, but when we got in the car to go home he shared his feelings of 'disgust' that she would do that to her baby. DH really is against the practice, which I like because so am I.

How many circ'd men quietly hate being circumcised but never actually say anything about it to others? How many are hiding in the dark???

[jeff71913]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

How common is this?



How many circ'd men quietly hate being circumcised but never actually say anything about it to others? How many are hiding in the dark???

The majority.

[TopHat]

Aside from the widespread ignorance, this is part of the reason why there are men and women out there who say that they've "never heard anyone complain"- even the men who object to their their status and have admitted in their minds that they're damaged goods aren't always forthcoming with their feelings to the people in their personal circle.

Although I think I can understand why this man would keep quiet.

[airpud]

The silent majority is probably about 99.999%. This thing is huge. It's the worst thing for the world, causes widespread distruction indirectly, and not many people are talking about it, and most of those who are are ignorant. But the internet is changing that. There is no going back.

[mark85]

Well, we can only speculate, but you know there are many men out there that keep it to themselves. So yeah, the people who say, "well, I've never heard anyone complain," are so naive, what makes them think people would want to talk to them about that?

[Them Boots]

Originally Posted by mark85

So yeah, the people who say, "well, I've never heard anyone complain," are so naive, what makes them think people would want to talk to them about that?

Or, they take the tack of thinking that because they know ONE person who has no complaints with being circumcised, that this proves there is nothing to complain about. It's like trying to discuss the harm of cigarette smoking to some old codger who then says "well, I've smoked for 40 years and it's never hurt me," as if this is absolute proof that all the studies and autopsies showing the harm from cigarettes are wrong or fake.

I used to work as a real estate agent and people like this made me want to get a bucket of cold water and throw it in their faces. "Well, Uncle Bob sold his house for sale by owner 8 years ago and he says it's worth $300,000 (and it doesn't matter that you have 10 years experience in the market and you're just full of shit when you say it's only worth $180,000.)

[photenman]

This is a puritanical society. Many people in the U.S. don't talk about their sex lives to other people. I have only one friend I feel comfortable confiding in, e.g., telling him I restore and recommending it. Otherwise, I just tell expecting parents that circ. is a very bad idea, watch a video and go to DoctorsOpposingCircumcision.org.

I have told my wife and would appreciate her interest, but she doesn't ask me about it, ask how it works, what devices I use, look for gains, etc. It's a solo matter.

My children think it's odd that I am an activist. It embarrasses them. I don't
talk about what I am doing.

Even 20 years ago, there were hardly any articles about circumcision. Now there are thousands.

I agree that the Internet is doing more to end circ. than anything else. People can see what a real penis looks like, how it works, and men are saying ah I see, I wish I had that, and increasingly they are restoring, maybe 250,000 men.

[violated]

i know what u mean. my gf couldnt be less interested. in fact, i try not to even mention it anymore because she gets irritated if i even bring it up anymore. yet we have all the normal problems from being cut-lol. so im just restoring on my own time, and keeping it to myself. ive tried to explain the problems to her several times. she thinks its a load of crap-lol. "i" know that restoring will make a huge difference, maybe she'll start to see the light when i make some significant progress. till then, im trying to be mr perfect-lol. and the few people ive tried to bring it up with think its a stupid thing to talk about.

Us intact men are not going to be the ones to end circ. We like the sexual monopoly we enjoy, thank you very much. You circ'd men need to get loud & vocal and really make your voices heard.