In need of encouragement and a place to start

[verusquo]

My name is Scott, I'm a 24-year-old homosexual man living in Charlotte, NC, and I'm about to pour my heart out to you (fair warning).

I was cut at birth and didn't know there was such a thing as being uncircumcised until my early teens. Though I am myself agnostic, I was reared in a heavily Baptist family where circumcision is the norm. I never desired a foreskin.

Sadly, I am guilty of greatly mistreating my member. I lived a highly active sex life in my teenage and early college years. If I wasn't having sex on a given day, I was masturbating. And this continued daily for several years until I noticed I had lost sensitivity, and a lot of it. It reached the point where intimacy couldn't even produce an erection anymore. Naturally this was crippling to my self-confidence, which only made the problem worse. This caused me to become depressed, which came with a massive weight gain, which, of course, hurt my self-confidence even more and made the problem worse still. In a few short years, I went from skinny and promiscuous to fat and basically impotent.

Don't worry, I have a point to make. Keep reading.

Two years ago, I met Eric. We have enjoyed a loving relationship and have plans to marry as soon as we are able to move to a state where our love isn't punished. (I won't get on that particular soapbox here.) My intimacy issue hasn't affected our relationship in the slightest, but it does put a mental strain on me knowing he can't provide the same satisfaction to me that I provide to him.

I had resigned myself to the belief that there was no way to cure me. And then last year, I poured my heart out to a friend. That's when he told me about restoration. I've extensively researched it and decided that I want to pursue it with great enthusiasm. I stopped masturbating several months ago, and though it did return some sensitivity, it isn't enough to overcome the years of damage done by my amorous nature and the lifelong incompleteness of my member.

I do understand that part of my issue lies in my self-confidence (namely, my lack thereof). I finally found a sustainable weight loss plan (eating right and exercising works? Whodathunkit?) and have lost a third of my goal of 50 pounds. But I feel that restoration is the final piece of the puzzle.

And that, my incredibly patient reader, is where you come in.

Every ounce of research I've done has only yielded direction to those who already have plentiful slack skin to work with. I do not, although I do have enough to forcibly cover the glans while flaccid with relative ease ("relative ease" here meaning "doesn't make me cry"). I've discussed it with Eric - he is fully supportive of the decision and is excited to witness the journey. But I can't start until I know the first step.

So my question to you is this: I wish to embark on this arduous, multi-year process. But where do I start?

[Them Boots]

The first steps are simple:

1. Understand that you must have faith in the restoration process, you will have to persist over the long-term and understand that you will NOT see results from day to day, week to week, and sometimes even month to month. Putting skin under tension is medically proven to bring about expansion, and is used in several different surgical procedures.

2. Plan to make restoring a habitual part of your day, just like brushing teeth, etc.

3. Apply tension by any means that you find will accommodate your lifestyle and daily schedule. A lot of people agonize over whether they should use this device or that device, it really doesn't matter. What matters is that you apply an appropriate amount of tension for an appropriate time each day, in a manner that you can stick with over the long term. You would have to experiment to find out what is appropriate, because this seems to be different for many people. You can start right this very minute by applying manual tension every time you get an opportunity, if you spend a couple of hours in front of the television each night that is time well spent tugging.

Good luck on your journey.

[miamee]

Scott, congratulations on taking this step. It's tough. I agree with everything ThemBoots said, I want to add the following: do NOT worry that you have masturbated too much and ruined your boy. You haven't. You'll be fine and as you continue your effort you will regain your sensitivity and then some. I was (and still am) very active, exercise a lot, etc. I lost much of my sensitivity to the point I wondered if I was somehow impotent. I spent the next 3 years restoring. I have regained all sensitivity - and far surpassed what I thought was possible. You will get there, and I am glad Eric is supporting you.

Along with ThemBoots, I would agree that at this point, it does not matter what method you use. Just find something that works for you and just start. The key above ALL things is consistency over a long period of time. If you're really tight, most have suggested manual tugging. Once you have some slack, you'll have many more choices.

Also, find a good therapist. Best of luck to you, I've been there and perhaps I can help. Send me a private msg if you want to talk more.

[greg_b]

Originally Posted by Them Boots

The first steps are simple:

1. Understand that you must have faith in the restoration process, you will have to persist over the long-term and understand that you will NOT see results from day to day, week to week, and sometimes even month to month. Putting skin under tension is medically proven to bring about expansion, and is used in several different surgical procedures.

2. Plan to make restoring a habitual part of your day, just like brushing teeth, etc.

3. Apply tension by any means that you find will accommodate your lifestyle and daily schedule. A lot of people agonize over whether they should use this device or that device, it really doesn't matter. What matters is that you apply an appropriate amount of tension for an appropriate time each day, in a manner that you can stick with over the long term. You would have to experiment to find out what is appropriate, because this seems to be different for many people. You can start right this very minute by applying manual tension every time you get an opportunity, if you spend a couple of hours in front of the television each night that is time well spent tugging.

Good luck on your journey.

Well said!!

[nomorepal]

Scott, great to have you here! The greatest mindset to have is sticking to it. If you're really sick and tired of being sick and tired, and you make restoration a daily ritual like brushing your teeth or putting on your socks, you'll do great.

I'll admit, my greatest downfall when I learned about restoration 4-5 years ago was "giving up". I made up excuses that it was too difficult to apply my method of restoring. Whatever method you choose, keep in mind that you'll be making progress. Just stay with it. Sometimes, you'll see NO results. It's a timely process, everybody is different.

Whatever you choose, welcome to taking the next step forward!

[Runsfromknives]

I started with no slack skin at all, I could hardly get any skin over my glans when flaccid. After years of brutal masturbation and painful sex at 21 years old my penis was dead. I remember thinking to my self " wow I am only 21 and my sex life is dead because I cant feel anything at all". I remembered when I was younger and masturbating felt good. That is when I started researching ED/sensitivity problems and found restoration. I started restoring, mostly by using T-tapes, and some DTR usage.

There are two things that are important to note


In the last 6 months I have been covered 24/7 using cross taping/T-tape because I have enough skin to compensate for an erection at night, about ~75% forced erect coverage(FEC). My glans has changed colour, texture, and feel. Its very moist and sensitive, and the colour has changed to a soft blue like colour/texture, except in some areas. .

From having a bit of slack skin I get a small amount of gliding action where the skin tube slides up and down the shaft.

The sensitive glans combined with the loose skin gives me indescribable pleasure I would have never known without restoration. I am at a CI-3 and it just keeps getting better. From what I have experienced so far I can guarantee myself that the pleasure will be at least double when I am a CI-5 from where I am right now at CI-3.

Double the skin, double the pleasure, thats how it works for me

[greg_b]

Originally Posted by verusquo

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Every ounce of research I've done has only yielded direction to those who already have plentiful slack skin to work with. I do not, although I do have enough to forcibly cover the glans while flaccid with relative ease ("relative ease" here meaning "doesn't make me cry"). I've discussed it with Eric - he is fully supportive of the decision and is excited to witness the journey. But I can't start until I know the first step.

So my question to you is this: I wish to embark on this arduous, multi-year process. But where do I start?

Many start with cross taping or manual. There is nothing wrong with starting, then stopping and pondering, and starting again. Think of it like learning a new skill. Begin by getting used to doing something as a daily part of your routine. Don't worry about too many details right off, just get the overall procedure down and get comfortable with it.

Once you have passed the initial learning curve, start researching and focusing on details. I would focus on tension first.

As you have more questions research them. The older posts here are a rich source of information. Asking questions is welcomed.

Regards

[antibunk]

You can use any time that was formerly spent masturbating on manual tugging.