The Multiple Scars of Circumcision

[Joseph]

I asked someone on Facebook if he could allow me to post a recent work here. He wishes to remain anonymous, and that I forward any comments to him.

The Multiple Scars of Circumcision, and Those Who Are Affected By Them

By (insert my real name here)

It all started that awful day. I was two days old, barely born and alive. My mother holding me tight in her arms, when the doctor asked the all important question. Did my parents desire circumcision? My mother answered an emphatic "no." My father disagreed and insisted on the circumcision. Determined to have his way, my father would see to it that the circumcision was performed. When my mother stepped out to use the restroom, the doctor brought the consent form, which my father signed (and of course the doctor was all too willing to honor my father's wishes, it's amazing how much of a driving force money is). That sealed my foreskin's fate, and it fell victim to the plastibell. Yeah, it hurt, and I know it hurt, even though I don't remember it.

My mother returned to the room, wondering where I was. My father reassured her that I was fine, though she had her doubts. When I was returned to my parents crying and trembling with post-op care instructions, my mother was absolutely raging mad at the betrayal that had taken place. It strained the marriage to its breaking point. Shortly thereafter, my parents divorced and my mother was awarded full custody.

The first years of my life were rough without that father figure. My mother was a single mother, working long hours just to support us. It took its toll on her, and I could see it. Things started to change when the person who would then come into our lives and become my step-father. Shortly after the wedding, I took on my step-father's name.

I never asked many questions about why my parents divorced, as I wasn't very concerned. When I was 12, I found out what circumcision was from my step-father (who is also circumcised). He told me the reasons for doing it, which I ignorantly believed, because apparently he thought (and told me) that it was normally done for health reasons. I thought nothing of it again, until a friend had a baby and chose not to circumcise.

When I asked her motives for not doing it, she went on to tell me that the alleged benefits had really no scientific backing, and had detrimental effects. When I asked my mother why she chose to circumcise me in the light of this evidence, she quickly pointed out that she did NOT want me circumcised, but rather it was my father who did, and was able to go behind her back to get the procedure done. I then found out why it was they divorced...the evil perpetrated by my father destroyed their relationship and their marriage.

A few more years passed, when out of the blue I got contacted by a person claiming to be a half-sister. When we compared known family histories, we discovered they matched up in every way. She had a very strained relationship with our father. She said he was prone to violence. I decided to speak to him anyway.

So we decide to meet up for a man-to-man talk to finally set the record straight. A bit into it, I brought up the circumcision decision. Of course, I'm going to try to find out why he did what he did. He gives me excuse after excuse, to which I give him rebuttal after rebuttal. He got really angry, very quickly, and started threatening to kill me as he started to reach for whatever was at hand to do so. This ended in me drawing my weapon (I'm a CHL holder and I carry wherever it's legal to do so for personal safety reasons), but he backed off quickly and I did not have to use force. That probably would have driven me crazy.

The drama didn't stop there. About a month later, my father committed suicide. However, given what happened, I didn't really care. I didn't go to the funeral. I didn't go to the burial. I just didn't care. I guess my heart was just as callused as my glans is today.

I still live with the effects of that fateful day. I have no sex drive and when I am in the mood to stimulate myself, it takes me hours to reach climax if I even can reach climax. It still depresses my mother to talk about it to this day. I can only imagine that I drove my father crazy with it and drove him to suicide (even though I'll never know why he took his own life). This is living proof that circumcision leaves multiple scars. Not just the circumcision ring...but emotional scars on not only the person who was circumcised, but also those who fought to prevent the procedure from being happened (thanks mom for everything you did, even though it was to no avail).

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope I have done enough to convince you to not circumcise any future sons. To those mothers (and/or fathers) who oppose circumcision while your spouse favors it, stay strong. The absolute worse case scenario is that you can look your son in the eye and say you did everything in your power to spare him. Stay strong, and don't go down without a fight.

[Billybobbed]

If the above story is true I hope the father is rotting in hell.

[finman]

For those not from the United States:

CHL = Concealed Handgun License (Licence in the UK).

[Billybobbed]

Originally Posted by finman

For those not from the United States:

CHL = Concealed Handgun License (Licence in the UK).

For you guys in the UK CCP=Concealed Carry Permit. Bet I got more guns than you Finny.

[tony12345]

Originally Posted by Joseph

I asked someone on Facebook if he could allow me to post a recent work here. He wishes to remain anonymous, and that I forward any comments to him.

I still live with the effects of that fateful day. I have no sex drive and when I am in the mood to stimulate myself, it takes me hours to reach climax if I even can reach climax. .

Sorry to hear about your situation, but I don't believe circumcision has anything to do with your libido. Libido is controlled by hormones. What you do need is to be in psychotherapy.

[cobra]

Libido is controlled by hormones, yes, but there is a psychological component to it as well and circumcision does have an effect on that. I'm not sure what you would call it, whether it be "positive reinforcement" or "sexual imprinting" but I know when I have great sex and it blows my mind, the details linger in my thoughts, leading me to be more excitable. The opposite is true as well. Whenever sex is bad, I am influenced to be less excitable-- possibly even avoiding sex-- for a short time after, like before I had my tumor removed and it was causing me to have ED and reduced sensation. My sexual experiences during that period were so bad it had a very distinct affect on my sex drive. He needs therapy, definitely, but not because he is being a crazy drama queen. He needs to find a therapist (or a mate) who can help him deal with and overcome the negativity he has developed toward sex. Only when his mind feels good about sex will his body, and libido, respond as it should.

[Joseph]

Originally Posted by tony12345

Sorry to hear about your situation, but I don't believe circumcision has anything to do with your libido. Libido is controlled by hormones. What you do need is to be in psychotherapy.

I wouldn't know what it would feel like not to have a libido. I do remember wanting to masturbate more because I remember it feeling good.

Actually, my first attempts at masturbation happened as a result of trying to recreate sensations I discovered quite by accident.

If this guy just never felt any sensations, and any sensations that do happen take hours of work, I could see how this could affect his sex drive.

And if his loss in sensation is due to his circumcision, then circumcision would be directly affecting his libido.

But like I've said, I was never circumcised, I still have great sensations years after I discovered masturbation, and I still have a libido, so I couldn't talk on this.

I believe it's on this very forum where I've read some men had similar experiences, who were so desensitized they wondered what the whole hullaballoo about sex was, and restoration greatly improving this.

It'd be nice if they could jump in and ellaborate...

[finman]

This is rather like the situation where, with certain medical conditions, the sense of taste is lost. This then suppresses the appetite, as there is little reward from eating.

[vicousg42]

good read. well shared. thanks man.

[Cresaiyan]

That story is extremely powerful, as it speaks volumes about the evil of.... well I mean, let's face the facts here. HOW CAN ANYONE BELIEVE THAT GOOD CAN COME OUT OF CUTTING OFF PEICES OF OUR CHILDREN.