Hi Everyone :)

[metroidgirl]

Hi all!

I'm new to this forum and thought I would introduce myself. I'm a 25 (almost 26) year old woman, and definitely consider myself an intactivist.

I used to be one of those girls that thought an intact penis was kinda strange, and that I would probably circumcise my sons because it had been done to basically every penis I had seen. I discovered this website a little over a year ago when I was doing some research on phimosis. I am a very curious and open-minded person and decided to look around some more. I was shocked to find the real differences between an intact penis and a circumcised one!

I was in a relationship at the time, and had been having sexual issues for quite a while. My partner was of average size and was very caring, but something just never felt quite "right" about our sex life. In fact, sex had been a frustrating part of my life for some time, as it had always been a little bit painful and awkward for me. There were times when I liked it, but it was never quite what I envisioned it to be.

I remember reading all of what had to be said on this forum and was very sad because I knew my partner at the time would have nothing of it. I was fairly certain that part of our problems could have been stemming from his circ'd status, but I was very much in love with him, so I tried not to let it bother me.

We broke up (for unrelated reasons) several months later. I was pretty bummed, to say the least.

In the spring, I became interested in a fellow that I had met through a common interest. He was very sweet and fun, and decided to give it a go.

So, long story made short, we're getting intimate, and I reach down and feel something new and different... and it hits me, he wasn't circumcised. The first time we had intercourse I wasn't able to notice much of a difference (the first time is always awkward lol), especially with a condom. But once I was confident that we weren't going to give each other any diseases, we tried it without.

I can't even begin to put into words the difference it made. I can't tell you how happy it makes me to see so many guys go through this process for both themselves and their partners. We've since broken up, but I know now that I CAN have a fulfilling sex life! I will NEVER have this done to my children. This chap was lucky, his skin was too short for the docs to risk operating on it, but even with a shorter foreskin (his only went about halfway down the glans when flaccid), it was such an incredible difference! At the same time, however, I am filled with the deepest sadness that so many of our fellow Americans continue to be brainwashed :( I know there are men and women suffering from this, and for the first time in my life, I want to get out there and inform people about something I really care about!

So, I hope that this post not only gives you an introduction to who I am, but also shows you that there are people who VERY much appreciate all that you have been doing! I am SO grateful for the ability to look at these forums and see people doing such wonderful things!

Thanks,

~M

[greg_b]

Welcome! It is great to hear your perspective and story! I look forward to more of your posts!

Regards

[FalseReality]

Well a girl that likes metroid and foreskins, unbelievably awesome haha =3. Stories like this always give me hope that I may at least be able to open a girl's mind about being uncircumcised (when I have uncircumcised myself fully that is). This is probably my only fear about having a foreskin.

It is sad that women have to deal with the circumcised penis, it is much harder to convince a circumcised partner to do restoration than one's self. Some just aren't going to do it no matter what you say, and guys don't like being told their victims or lacking something. Many men where brainwashed along with women that being cut is superior.

[Colorado]

I am going to have my wife read your post. Thank you so much for caring enough to share and express your feelings. I have assured my wife that our love life will feel better when I am through. I am a current CI 3.5 and my goal is a CI-8.
Thanks for the inspiring message.

Colorado

[Dasher]

Welcome to the forum. Nice to have you with us!

And it's good to have your perspective on this. I sometimes get so wrapped up in my own restoration effort, that I forget that my restored penis will eventually benefit someone else, not just me.

I'm not surprised at all that you concluded that the natural penis is better after having experienced both. A girl I know chose an intact guy over a circumcised guy after dating both, saying she chose the uncircumcised guy because she was able to have great sex with him.

Younger circumcised guys who grew up on the Internet quickly come to the conclusion that they were robbed when they were born and deprived of something that they were supposed to have. You have teenagers on this forum as young as 14 looking for information on restoring their foreskin. We also heard from a father of twins, 12 years old, who are intent on restoring their foreskin.

The problem is older circumcised guys. Many of them are understandably in denial about having a mutilated and -- in many ways -- inferior penis. They are heterosexual, so, unlike most gay guys, they have never experienced sex with an uncircumcised penis. It's ignorance. They just don't know. And most or all of their buddies are circumcised too, especially if they grew up in the white bread suburbs. Eventually, if enough girlfriends complain about getting dry and sore, they might wake up. But I wouldn't want to give you the odds on that.

That's why we're especially lucky and privileged to have you with us. Because, despite the conventional wisdom, you found out the truth on your own!

[BlackSkullRacer613]

Welcome to the forum, and thank you for being open on this issue. It truly is sad that so many people are circumcised at birth. I am especially pissed because my father wanted me to "look like him." I cannot believe how selfish some fathers can be.

If you become a mother someday, it is nice to know that you won't be as ignorant.

[Terato]

Hey Metroid and welcome to the forum from another girl intactivist :D Always great to see another woman on here! :D

I'm in a somewhat similar position to you, despite being a virgin still -- I had never even really thought that much about circumcision before I met my boyfriend. After we started dating I eventually wanted to ask him if he was cut or uncut, though I really didn't know there was that much of a difference and I didn't really have any feelings one way or the other -- I was just curious. I never got to ask as I read a post of his on another forum that we were both on where he was venting angrily about being circumcised (that was the topic of the thread on there). So, that cleared that mystery up for me. I started researching it, eventually finding out about intactivism, and I slowly became convinced that the intactivists were right and that routine infant circ is wrong, wrong, wrong!

My boyfriend is lucky, I guess -- he actually has a lot of coverage, about half-way down, both flaccid and erect. I was stunned when I first saw this and asked him if he had always looked like that, since I thought he must have inadvertently restored himself somehow. He said he'd always been that way since he could remember. So I'm thinking that for some bizarre reason the bastard who cut him only took half his foreskin and left the rest on. I'm still extremely angry about it, though. >:(

I think that one thing that your post illustrates is the possibility of change and growth that people can undergo, since you say that at one point you would have accepted circumcising your sons. I think the thing to remember is that most parents who circumcise don't do so because they are cruel, uncaring, or sadistic people. The majority of them either don't know better because that's all they've known, or because they think they are helping their child. The act is still wrong, still abusive, but it is not done out of a spirit of malice or actively wanting to cause pain. That a parent can do that to a child and still love them is a very hard thing to realize.

However, it shows us that with education, many people who would circumcise can be persuaded not to. We shouldn't demonize parents or antagonize them, but lovingly educate. I think that if most people are shown the harm and pain circ causes, they would NEVER do it.

[freddys]

Welcome, Metroidgirl.
It is so refreshing to know that young women like you will be so important in changing today's public acceptance of circumcision. And it shows that men who restore are not as selfish as they may appear.
For men's sake, do spread your vision.
Thank you and good luck.
Best regards,
freddys.

[photenman]

Thank you for such a terrific post!

It is really helpful for a young woman like you to say very clearly that sex is much better physically when men are intact, and that circumcision detracts from sex for the man and the woman. Doctors completely cover that up!

Thanks also for your sympathy for men who have been harmed, which would be all of us here. Circumcision harms 100% of men: e.g., complete loss of mobility and the related sensations.

Please keep spreading the word to other women and mothers. If we don't speak up, they win.

Lastly some encouragement if you fall for a circumcised man. Restoration really works and makes a huge difference. In 1 year you can get partial coverage, some mobility, different sensations and a lot more sensitivity. I think in 2 years of restoring men can get back a lot of what they lost, and sex will be better for the couple.

[metroidgirl]

Thanks everyone for your comments! I would say a bit more, but my tummy kinda hurts right now :(