Re: Ending The Relationship With My Parents
Sad thing about American society and the very few societies where circumcision is the norm, is speaking about the mutilation makes you a nut ball. There are very few outlets to express your true feelings, so you end up just bottling it. Circumcision is really difficult to deal with because the damage has been done, and there's nothing that can be done to reverse the incredible damage. Yes restoration does reverse some damage, but it still pales to a naturally intact penis. So it's easy to feel helpless and resentful towards various parties responsible for the atrocity. It's also easy to think of rational ways to deal with being violated such as, "Forgive and move on" or "What's done is done, so there's no use in feeling upset about something that can't be undone." But no amount of rationalizing can completely eliminate the certain emotions associated with having been circumcised. I try to live my life in a level-headed manner and trying not to take things personally by viewing life as a series of inevitable actions that will occur, and every I action I take will lead to a series of inevitable reactions. But humans cannot be totally rational and emotions occur, and we have to deal with them.