Masturbation....

[FR618]

Okay, first off, I feel very silly asking the following questions, but it's been on my mind for quite some time, and I've got no one else to ask. Not to mention that google doesn't help too much either.

This sentence is a TMI advisory, as I'm about to get into pretty great details.

Anyways, during masterbation (I'm cut btw, if that helps), I find that I don't really feel much pleasure (until orgasm) and that I have to focus really hard on something erotic or I go flaccid and I'm sure that's not normal, correct? Oh yea, I found that humping a large stuffed animal is by far the most satisfying thing that I've found so far (much better than a fleshlight) probably because I found that I don't need to concentrate when humping it (cause I guess performing the humping is erotic for me), and I can hug it, show it affection, etc... Also, it rubs against my legs, chest, as if rubbing against multiple erogenous zones at once. I also find that the soft tickle of the fur is the only thing that actually feels nice against my penis as it feels like a deep, gentle, satisfying massage. Yeah... Now that I've read what I just typed, it sounds kinda... Weird, creepy?

Moving on, why is it that when using my hands, after a while it feels like my penis is going to explode? As in this unexplainable, deep ache develops? I swear that I'm not choking it to death.

Also, reguardless of whatever method I use, I found that in order to actually reach orgasm, I need to tense up my entire body. Is this normal? I find that if I'm using my hands, a fleshlight, or humping a stuffed animal, if I don't get tense, I'll just end up getting tired and feeling nowhere near an orgasm, or worse, go flaccid after half an hour.

Lastly, and to me, it's sad that I've never experienced this, but I just can't bring myself to do it to myself. So yea, I'm a nearly 21 year old virgin with no sexual experience at all with anyone else other than myself, literally. Hell, I never even got remotely intimate with anyone, never dated, never kissed, never held hands, never had a girl or boy friend (I'm bi), just a few loose friendships, that are all male for some reason, and it's not that I don't want to get intimate, it just hasn't happened yet. Maybe there's something wrong with me, but anyways that's not what were focusing on, so moving on... I've noticed that despite my lack of sensitivity, pleasure, etc... Once I reach orgasm and WHILE I'm having my orgasm and ejaculating, I find that if I'm using a fleshlight, and if I try to keep stimulation going, I get this extremely overwhelming intense almost pain like sensation, and I need to stop. Almost as if it's a mental knot. Because of that, it's impossible for me to continue stimulation. I suspect that, say if i was having sex with a female, and once I reach my orgasm, she's going to be moving while I'm having my orgasm, (she's on top) and not stay perfectly still. I want to experience this so badly, and I have no idea if this is normal or not, and how it feels like. From what I can tell, it's going to either send me into a full body spasm, make me scream like I'm about to die, or black out. So, which is it?

Phew, that was a wall of text! I wonder if anyone would actually read it all, and not skim through it. Anyways, thanks for any answers, and ask questions if you need more clarification!

[z726]

I remember back in my teenage years I would sometimes use a pillow. Whatever works for you - just don't develop an animal fetish But seriously, if you feel the need to hug and show affection, you may want to try the dating scene to seek out a fellow human being rather than an inanimate object.

The difficulty with sensation during masturbation and sex is certainly not unheard of among circumcised men; there have been others on this forum with the same issue. Long before I started restoring, I didn't feel much either until right before orgasm. It didn't take me as long to finish, but I can understand how that might be an issue for others like yourself. I also had tight skin during erections, and rubbing it without any lubricant would hurt after a while. Is yours also tight? That may explain the deep ache you mention.

It's normal, though, for the glans to become very sensitive all of a sudden during ejaculation. Everyone experiences it, but it's not so much of an issue when there's enough skin to roll over it - this doesn't provide the intense friction of a hand or other object pressed against the glans.

[Tally]

Originally Posted by FR618

I've noticed that despite my lack of sensitivity, pleasure, etc... Once I reach orgasm and WHILE I'm having my orgasm and ejaculating, I find that if I'm using a fleshlight, and if I try to keep stimulation going, I get this extremely overwhelming intense almost pain like sensation, and I need to stop. Almost as if it's a mental knot. Because of that, it's impossible for me to continue stimulation.

What you describe is not uncommon. Before I started restoring I would thrust and thrust until I reached a point where I suddenly knew I was going to ejaculate. As soon as I started ejaculating I had to stop thrusting because my glans, and in particular my corona, would be so hypersensitive that any stimulation was painful. I had to stop moving so the pain would go away. After I ejaculated, I would collapse from exhaustion from the physical effort required to ejaculate.

Then I restored my foreskin.

Now I can thrust and feel a gradual buildup of sexual pressure. I have lots of warning that an orgasm is approaching. As I reach orgasm (which before was only ejaculation) I can continue thrusting because the additional stimulation just adds to the pleasure. I can keep thrusting to ride the wave of orgasm. After my orgasm I collapse from being spent sexually. I am panting, but it is not from physical exhaustion because it no longer takes the physical exertion to reach ejaculation like it did before I started restoring.

Originally Posted by FR618

I suspect that, say if i was having sex with a female, and once I reach my orgasm, she's going to be moving while I'm having my orgasm, (she's on top) and not stay perfectly still. I want to experience this so badly, and I have no idea if this is normal or not, and how it feels like. From what I can tell, it's going to either send me into a full body spasm, make me scream like I'm about to die, or black out. So, which is it?

Don't over think it. Your first time is going to be awkward and you are going to be fumbling. That is just how it is for almost everyone.

Most likely, she will orgasm first as long as you are doing a good job of stimulating her. Particularly since you say you have a loss of sensitivity. As for what your reaction is going to be, you have to experience it yourself to find out. My partners always enjoy when I have an expressive orgasm.

[FR618]

Originally Posted by z726

I remember back in my teenage years I would sometimes use a pillow. Whatever works for you - just don't develop an animal fetish But seriously, if you feel the need to hug and show affection, you may want to try the dating scene to seek out a fellow human being rather than an inanimate object.

The difficulty with sensation during masturbation and sex is certainly not unheard of among circumcised men; there have been others on this forum with the same issue. Long before I started restoring, I didn't feel much either until right before orgasm. It didn't take me as long to finish, but I can understand how that might be an issue for others like yourself. I also had tight skin during erections, and rubbing it without any lubricant would hurt after a while. Is yours also tight? That may explain the deep ache you mention.

It's normal, though, for the glans to become very sensitive all of a sudden during ejaculation. Everyone experiences it, but it's not so much of an issue when there's enough skin to roll over it - this doesn't provide the intense friction of a hand or other object pressed against the glans.

Tried the pillow, it's not exactly soft lol, and dating for me is difficult. First off, I don't often see people that spark an interest visually at least, and those that do are often taken or don't want to hang out with me for some reason. Like I said, there's probably something wrong with me, but I can't figure it out. It's always me approaching other people, they never approach me.

Yea I have tight dorsal skin, and for some reason it still hurts when I use lube while using my hands or a fleshlight. The only thing that doesn't hurt is the stuffed animal. The only differences that I can make from hands and fleshlight vs stuffed animal is that the stuffed animal has a very soft touch and gentle rubbing. While my hand and the fleshlight is well, fleshy and is still "harder" than the stuffed animal even when my hand and fleshlight is lubed.

Hmm, makes me wonder what it feels like to continue stimulation throughout an orgasm.

Originally Posted by Tally

What you describe is not uncommon. Before I started restoring I would thrust and thrust until I reached a point where I suddenly knew I was going to ejaculate. As soon as I started ejaculating I had to stop thrusting because my glans, and in particular my corona, would be so hypersensitive that any stimulation was painful. I had to stop moving so the pain would go away. After I ejaculated, I would collapse from exhaustion from the physical effort required to ejaculate.

Then I restored my foreskin.

Now I can thrust and feel a gradual buildup of sexual pressure. I have lots of warning that an orgasm is approaching. As I reach orgasm (which before was only ejaculation) I can continue thrusting because the additional stimulation just adds to the pleasure. I can keep thrusting to ride the wave of orgasm. After my orgasm I collapse from being spent sexually. I am panting, but it is not from physical exhaustion because it no longer takes the physical exertion to reach ejaculation like it did before I started restoring.

Don't over think it. Your first time is going to be awkward and you are going to be fumbling. That is just how it is for almost everyone.

Most likely, she will orgasm first as long as you are doing a good job of stimulating her. Particularly since you say you have a loss of sensitivity. As for what your reaction is going to be, you have to experience it yourself to find out. My partners always enjoy when I have an expressive orgasm.

Yes, that hypersensitivity is exactly spot on! In fact, the reason why I'm restoring is because I've recently picked up physical activities such as riding a bike and jogging. Before that, I would sit at the computer and watch TV with occasional walks outside. While I was exercising, I noticed something different than if I was sitting at the computer. It was especially pronounced during bike riding, and it turns out that my exposed glans was rubbing against my clothing far more than the usual walking, and it was a major distraction. Then I've since resorted to wearing an athletic cup and what do you know, the problem is resolved, temporarily at least! Well, I have been wearing that cup for a few months, and I tried going back out for a walk without it, and instantly, I felt that annoying sensation again and wondered how I was living like that before. My brain probably filtered it out as I was used to it, but then I wore that cup for a few months, and resuming what I did before made me very unhappy. Thus leading to the search for better ways to keep my glans covered, and here I am!

[Ameer27]

Originally Posted by FR618

Okay, first off, I feel very silly asking the following questions, but it's been on my mind for quite some time, and I've got no one else to ask. Not to mention that google doesn't help too much either.

This sentence is a TMI advisory, as I'm about to get into pretty great details.

Anyways, during masterbation (I'm cut btw, if that helps), I find that I don't really feel much pleasure (until orgasm) and that I have to focus really hard on something erotic or I go flaccid and I'm sure that's not normal, correct? Oh yea, I found that humping a large stuffed animal is by far the most satisfying thing that I've found so far (much better than a fleshlight) probably because I found that I don't need to concentrate when humping it (cause I guess performing the humping is erotic for me), and I can hug it, show it affection, etc... Also, it rubs against my legs, chest, as if rubbing against multiple erogenous zones at once. I also find that the soft tickle of the fur is the only thing that actually feels nice against my penis as it feels like a deep, gentle, satisfying massage. Yeah... Now that I've read what I just typed, it sounds kinda... Weird, creepy?

Moving on, why is it that when using my hands, after a while it feels like my penis is going to explode? As in this unexplainable, deep ache develops? I swear that I'm not choking it to death.

Also, reguardless of whatever method I use, I found that in order to actually reach orgasm, I need to tense up my entire body. Is this normal? I find that if I'm using my hands, a fleshlight, or humping a stuffed animal, if I don't get tense, I'll just end up getting tired and feeling nowhere near an orgasm, or worse, go flaccid after half an hour.

Lastly, and to me, it's sad that I've never experienced this, but I just can't bring myself to do it to myself. So yea, I'm a nearly 21 year old virgin with no sexual experience at all with anyone else other than myself, literally. Hell, I never even got remotely intimate with anyone, never dated, never kissed, never held hands, never had a girl or boy friend (I'm bi), just a few loose friendships, that are all male for some reason, and it's not that I don't want to get intimate, it just hasn't happened yet. Maybe there's something wrong with me, but anyways that's not what were focusing on, so moving on... I've noticed that despite my lack of sensitivity, pleasure, etc... Once I reach orgasm and WHILE I'm having my orgasm and ejaculating, I find that if I'm using a fleshlight, and if I try to keep stimulation going, I get this extremely overwhelming intense almost pain like sensation, and I need to stop. Almost as if it's a mental knot. Because of that, it's impossible for me to continue stimulation. I suspect that, say if i was having sex with a female, and once I reach my orgasm, she's going to be moving while I'm having my orgasm, (she's on top) and not stay perfectly still. I want to experience this so badly, and I have no idea if this is normal or not, and how it feels like. From what I can tell, it's going to either send me into a full body spasm, make me scream like I'm about to die, or black out. So, which is it?

Phew, that was a wall of text! I wonder if anyone would actually read it all, and not skim through it. Anyways, thanks for any answers, and ask questions if you need more clarification!

I understand you. Believe me I do. I'm also circumcised. And like you, I don't have much pleasure until orgasm and during orgasm. I'd also like to know if it's supposed to feel good all the way through or if it's normal to get the most pleasure during orgasm. But anyway, I'm not sure why you're experiencing pains during masturbation. I don't experience this. Maybe you should visit a doctor? Or have you considered restoration? I'm guessing it might help. I haven't done it myself (yet) but many people suggest that I do it, and almost everyone I know who has tried this was satisfied with the results. Anyway, don't, I repeat, DO NOT take my word for it. Do researches. Try as hard as you can to get the most info about this. Ask doctors, people who have opted for restoration, do some online research... etc.

I'm also almost 20, and never had sex. Never had a gf. Never dated, hugged, or kissed a girl. Although I do have friends that are girls, but just friends. I really recommend visiting a therapist. I have done it and I can say honestly that it helped me a whole lot in this matter. True that I didn't experience all this yet, but at least it made me more encouraged to do it. I just don't have the opportunity to do it where I live, because of the mentality of the society I live in. And no, I can assure you there is nothing wrong with you. This is extremely normal, and you're not the only one, believe me. You just need to try harder, I guess. And I guess you need some support. And maybe be more confident and proud of who you are? And anyone who doesn't accept you for who you are, I'd say try to avoid him/her.

Hope I've helped

[FR618]

Originally Posted by Ameer27

I understand you. Believe me I do. I'm also circumcised. And like you, I don't have much pleasure until orgasm and during orgasm. I'd also like to know if it's supposed to feel good all the way through or if it's normal to get the most pleasure during orgasm. But anyway, I'm not sure why you're experiencing pains during masturbation. I don't experience this. Maybe you should visit a doctor? Or have you considered restoration? I'm guessing it might help. I haven't done it myself (yet) but many people suggest that I do it, and almost everyone I know who has tried this was satisfied with the results. Anyway, don't, I repeat, DO NOT take my word for it. Do researches. Try as hard as you can to get the most info about this. Ask doctors, people who have opted for restoration, do some online research... etc.

I'm also almost 20, and never had sex. Never had a gf. Never dated, hugged, or kissed a girl. Although I do have friends that are girls, but just friends. I really recommend visiting a therapist. I have done it and I can say honestly that it helped me a whole lot in this matter. True that I didn't experience all this yet, but at least it made me more encouraged to do it. I just don't have the opportunity to do it where I live, because of the mentality of the society I live in. And no, I can assure you there is nothing wrong with you. This is extremely normal, and you're not the only one, believe me. You just need to try harder, I guess. And I guess you need some support. And maybe be more confident and proud of who you are? And anyone who doesn't accept you for who you are, I'd say try to avoid him/her.

Hope I've helped

I'm pretty sure the pain is because I have very tight skin on the dorsal side, equivalent to that of a CI-1 on this scale http://www.newforeskin.biz/CI/CIchart.htm Maybe that's why the only way that I don't experience pain is with the stuffed animal because it has next to no grip and the fur gives very easily? I'm currently just starting manual tugging and I hope that with time, I can use other methods of masterbation without that dull ache that I currently experience. If tugging and getting more loose skin doesn't solve the problem, I will have to go to a doctor.

It's not that I have problems with other people, I mean I can approach a girl or a guy and start talking to them without problem. I'm not exactly shy or nervous depending on the situation, IE: bathrooms, clerks when there's other people waiting behind me, or if that person is with their family. I just can't see why other people won't come up to me and why I'm always the one going up to them? Just to have them not want to be friends or they act friendly, but inside they couldn't really care less, or something like that.

[Tally]

Originally Posted by FR618

I'm pretty sure the pain is because I have very tight skin on the dorsal side, equivalent to that of a CI-1 on this scale http://www.newforeskin.biz/CI/CIchart.htm Maybe that's why the only way that I don't experience pain is with the stuffed animal because it has next to no grip and the fur gives very easily?

Before I started restoring, I had tight erections. One masturbation technique I liked was to use a soft fabric to masturbate. I had some fluffy wool hiking socks that were very pleasurable. A loose grip was perfect for letting the fluffy fabric stimulate me.

Now that I have slack skin, all I need is my hand.

[FR618]

Originally Posted by Tally

Before I started restoring, I had tight erections. One masturbation technique I liked was to use a soft fabric to masturbate. I had some fluffy wool hiking socks that were very pleasurable. A loose grip was perfect for letting the fluffy fabric stimulate me.

Now that I have slack skin, all I need is my hand.

Yeah, that's what I'm talking about! I hope that when I do finally finish restoring, I can get used to my hand. 'cause I think I'm kinda attached to that one stuffed animal (more so than if it was a pillow, 'cause it has a face, ears, tail, legs, and no "holes" thankfully. Oh, and also after recieving so much pleasure from such a simple toy), lol... Yeah, on top of using it to stimulate me (hey, at least I keep it clean, as in I never ejaculated directly on/in it!), I also fall asleep and wake up with it like a little child. Or, as I regain sensitivity, the dry fur of the stuffed animal won't feel as good anymore, and I'll naturally move on.

[Rezzealaux]

Originally Posted by Tally

What you describe is not uncommon. Before I started restoring I would thrust and thrust until I reached a point where I suddenly knew I was going to ejaculate. As soon as I started ejaculating I had to stop thrusting because my glans, and in particular my corona, would be so hypersensitive that any stimulation was painful. I had to stop moving so the pain would go away. After I ejaculated, I would collapse from exhaustion from the physical effort required to ejaculate.

Then I restored my foreskin.

Now I can thrust and feel a gradual buildup of sexual pressure. I have lots of warning that an orgasm is approaching. As I reach orgasm (which before was only ejaculation) I can continue thrusting because the additional stimulation just adds to the pleasure. I can keep thrusting to ride the wave of orgasm. After my orgasm I collapse from being spent sexually. I am panting, but it is not from physical exhaustion because it no longer takes the physical exertion to reach ejaculation like it did before I started restoring.

Sir, you just made my day.

[wulfboi]

Firstly, I want to say there is nothing wrong with you at least from what you've written. There's nothing wrong with being a 20 year old virgin, I'm a firm believer in the "loose it when it's right" sentiment.

Secondly, it sounds to me like you may be a bit of a plushie - I forget the proper term for it. But as best as I understand it, it means a person who gets some form of sexual satisfaction from stuffed plush toys. I may of course be entirely wrong about that so don't take that as gospel.